Has anybody else had this problem?

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Registered: 05-07-2004
Has anybody else had this problem?
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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 1:39pm
Okay, when you know it's over, and you know that divorce is inevitable and ultimately the best thing for everybody, have you ever started thinking about the good times from the past? About loving and fun moments you shared? How'd you handle that?
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Registered: 12-23-2005
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 8:20pm

My divorce isn't even final and I called my husband last night
because I don't want to go through with it, (I'm the one that filed)

He said he wants the divorce can't blame him. I want to die.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 11:03pm

I think what you are going through is completely normal... even in the relationships that fail, there are good moments, or they wouldn't get as far as they did in the first place. I have fond memories of the relationship with my xh and find myself reflecting from time to time... it is a part of who I am today, even though it did not turn out as I had originally anticipated. It is important to remember those times, but also remain aware of where you are now, meaning, do not hold onto the good times as a means of holding onto the relationship, but appreciating the good times for what they were...

*hugs*

Julie

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 1:41pm

Going through this myself right now. God it is hard.
I just look through photo albums and cry every single night. I miss him so much, yet nobody in the world has made me as angry or as hurt as he has. The part that makes it hardest for me is that this was all MY DECISION in the first place. Then once we separated, I changed my mind and he said "Sorry, too late" and moved on. I will for the rest of my life blame myself- it was all my fault. Now i'm trying to remember what made me want this in the first place, but I just can't seem to remember.
You'd think hating him would make it easier- but it doesn't!

Lainie