yes my life changed quickly. I moved out and moved back home with my parents for four years after my divorce. That was tight. Then I decided it was time for me to move on and stop looking over my shoulder so much and live. I did and now five years after that. I have my own home, a great job and my own car (paid off)!!!!! I am much better off now. I still watch my pennies. But my money and my house is mine. Yea.
Michael, I don't think you being a guy is a problem here. Yes, some of us are angry with 'men' and might remain so for a while. But at the heart of it, your wife left you, so we can probably forgive you for being one of them.
ONe of the things I miss most about pre marriage days is having friends who are guys. I grew up with brothers, always had guy friends in high school, college, etc. Once I got married, and moved to a new state, there were no more opportunities to make new guy friends.
Like JusticeandTruth, being married was very lonely...sitting on the couch waiting for him to come home. I'm thrilled to pieces that I am now free to make friends with all sorts of new people. So post away!
I still live in the same house. I make 1/4 of what we did. I had to go back to work full time even though he had always told me my job was to care for the children. Now I only get to tuck my children into bed everyother week. This kills me. I am so lonely that I think this divorce is going to be the death of me. Yes, my lifestyle has changed. Hugs, Brenda
Thanks for your nice post. I am just starting to get into this message board thing so please forgive me if I don't know exactly what I am doing.
At any rate, I have been angry with "women" in general since my divorce but I really shouldn't have been. My wife left me. Her leaving had nothing to do with her gender (well, maybe it did since she left for another woman, but I digress). The point is that she left. It could have been a him who left. It really does not matter. I bet that everyone who is reading and/or posting on this board has a reason to be mad.
What I am hoping to get from being here is some insight into how other people are dealing with divorce while also helping to provide some insight into how I am dealing with it. I never thought that I'd be here at age 35 but I am. Maybe this will help to make me a better person.
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Michael,
I don't think you being a guy is a problem here. Yes, some of us are angry with 'men' and might remain so for a while. But at the heart of it, your wife left you, so we can probably forgive you for being one of them.
ONe of the things I miss most about pre marriage days is having friends who are guys. I grew up with brothers, always had guy friends in high school, college, etc. Once I got married, and moved to a new state, there were no more opportunities to make new guy friends.
Like JusticeandTruth, being married was very lonely...sitting on the couch waiting for him to come home. I'm thrilled to pieces that I am now free to make friends with all sorts of new people. So post away!
Susie
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Susie,
Thanks for your nice post. I am just starting to get into this message board thing so please forgive me if I don't know exactly what I am doing.
At any rate, I have been angry with "women" in general since my divorce but I really shouldn't have been. My wife left me. Her leaving had nothing to do with her gender (well, maybe it did since she left for another woman, but I digress). The point is that she left. It could have been a him who left. It really does not matter. I bet that everyone who is reading and/or posting on this board has a reason to be mad.
What I am hoping to get from being here is some insight into how other people are dealing with divorce while also helping to provide some insight into how I am dealing with it. I never thought that I'd be here at age 35 but I am. Maybe this will help to make me a better person.
Have a good evening,
Michael
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