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| Fri, 03-03-2006 - 8:48am |
A couple of months ago, someone started a thread about the positive sides of getting separated/divorced. We made up lists of the "good" aspects of being single again. So I think I'm going to post my top 5!
5. When I come into the house, it's exactly the way I left it - no computer parts on the dining room table, no pants in a pile on the floor, no huge messes, etc.
4. When I do laundry, it's all done. There isn't clothing strewn from room to room for five days straight because it's a "system.
3. When a bill comes, I just pay it, I don't have to chase anyone down and field calls from collection agencies.
2. I don't have to worry about the roar of the car coming up the driveway, and feel sick when the door opens, knowing I will either be mistreated or ignored.
1. I can have frilly, poofy, girly sheets and comforters on my bed, and no one complains about it!
Who is up next?? ;)

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Can't resist this one....
Love being able to go to the theater or the movies and see what I want to see.
Not being nagged that I am not 'social' enough or I am not 'romantic' enough.
Being in charge of how the money is spent (ex loved to spend money on things without taking much input from me - and he loved to spend a lot!)
Wearing clothes I like and decorating things the way I like - I LOVE having flowered sheets now! - without having to hear negative comments about it. I can wear plaid and not get a load of grief about it!
No clogged toilets, no disgustingly dirty shower, no pee left in the toilet all night long (he refused to flush at night as "it makes too much noise" and he would complain to no end if I flushed the toilet at night), no snoring that can be heard all over the house, no being awakened in the middle of the night because "you're breathing too loud", no putting up with pornography, no putting up with projects around the house that go on for weeks, months, years, without being completed!
My son gets more one-on-one time with his Dad - I get a break two times a week.
Too much fun! I am laughing so much over this!!! It is nice to think of good ways things have changed.
Just a silly flip of the coin here...
Anyone (out 12+ months) MISS anything? I mean, I don't even miss my 4000 sq foot house! I love my job, so even the "luxury" of being his housemaid looks crappy in hindsight... I am 100% happier in every aspect.
Great subject matter.........
No more sarcasm! No more put-downs because I "can't take a joke".
No more asking myself what kind of mood he's going to be in today...it was always lousy, anyway.
No more criticism. I have discovered I AM a competent person after all.
2. I do enjoy my time alone without the children. Mom needs a break.
3. Don't have to cook a meal twice daily. Yeah!
4. I painted my bedroom purple. He would hate it. :)
5. I have met and made many good friends here.
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Great idea! It sounds like y'all covered most of the good things about the divorce. Here's my 2 cents: everyday I wake up and he's not here is a good day. My good days abound !!!
Laura
1) I get the bed all to myself now can can fall asleep without him tossing and turning.
2) I don't have to wax his back anymore.
3) I don't have to pop the zits on his back anymore.
4) I don't have to feel sorry for him anymore when I walk into the bathroom and catch him checking out his bald spot.
5) I don't have to do his laundry.
6) I don't have to confront him about cheating on me and have him lie to my face about it b/c I already know.
7) I don't have to freak out when he makes us late to EVERYTHING.
8) I don't have to wonder if he's coming home or if he is going to call me and say "Looks like I'm going to be at work all night again"
9) I don't have to gag when he leaves the bathroom after a #2.
and my favorite.....
10) I don't have to think I am the one going crazy. I wasn't. He was cheating, lying and disrespecting not only me, but his family.
I'm going to print this out so I can look at more often!!!! :)
This is tooooooo easy.
1) no sweaty smelly, garlic eating slob laying next to me at night. He never showered, shaved or brushed his disgusting teeth all weekend.
2) no sweaty smelly garling eating slob waking you up at 4 am for his 2 minutes of "quality time".
3) no sweaty smelly work clothes left laying on the carpet because he's going to wear those same gross clothes to work the next day.
4) no more finding out he started laundry and then left it in the washer all weekend.
5) no more busting butt on a Sunday morning cleaning while his lazy a$$ sits in front of sports.
6) being able to go out with the girls.
7) watching chick flicks
8) weekends when the kids are with him I have quiet time with NO cleaning or cooking and the remote is MINE all MINE. LOL.
9) Filing taxes early instead of the stroke of midnight April 15 because he's just plain passive aggressive.
10) The kids listen to me and help out because Mr. Loser isn't there undermining me.
11) The bed is mine.
12)nobody to answer to.
9) The bathroom doesn't stink anymore
8) There is food in the refrigerator now, instead of the subhuman vacuum sucking it all up
7) No more pornography on the computer
6) I can wear skirts now without feeling like a street girl
5) I can do my art without being criticized
4) No more hearing how my IQ is less than his (this coming from someone who is comparing my masters in engineering with his lack of a degree!)
3) No more accused of getting fat (at size 4?!)
2) No more paying for repairing dents and fender benders on the car or for increased insurance because 'somebody' kept running into other people or objects out of recklessness or road rage
1) No more fearing everyday that I might wind up in an emergency room because of his anger
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