Having problems hanging in there...

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Having problems hanging in there...
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 6:49pm

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:55pm

PDX,


Hi. I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. Stress hits everyone differently and several stressors can put anyone over the edge. Please remember that "gorgeous four year old daughter" every time you think suicide is the answer. She needs you and will need you to be there for her now and later. So don't give up.


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CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 07-07-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 10:03pm

I am so glad you reached out for support, rather than internalizing all the pain you're experiencing now.

I am also glad that you're not resorting to the "tough guy" routine. For much of my life, I tried not to allow anyone to see my perceived "weaknesses," and I can tell you this: it takes a lot more courage to immerse yourself in your emotions than it does to lock them up inside. I know in the military there is a need to repress such feelings, but elsewhere, people respect and even admire those who are able to express their feelings. To me, one of the most attractive qualities a man can have is the ability to let his tears show.

I can't offer you much in the advice department; I haven't been able to get out of bed for 3 1/2 days myself. But I can tell you that you're not alone. In addition, I can recommend a great book that's been a source of comfort to me: Dark Nights of the Soul by Thomas Moore. I've read it a few times as I've navigated the troubled waters of my marriage, and I've found so much of value in it.

You are such a strong person! Stronger than you know! I know it can feel differently sometimes, but we're never given more than we can handle. I have faith that you'll handle this with grace and be good to yourself.

Please keep going to therapy, and if you don't feel this therapist is a good fit for you, look for another one. There will be someone out there who can offer you support during this dark time.

Wishing you strength,
M

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 11:45pm

Its NOT whining! You are dealing with SO MUCH right now ... is ok to be sad, mad, etc.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 9:42pm