having trouble eating

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having trouble eating
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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 2:55pm

Hi


Anyone else having trouble eating? I am finding it hard to find anything I want to eat, even junk food. I've lost about 15 lbs already and maybe more in the last 3 months. At first after he told

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Registered: 05-22-2004
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:13pm

Clearly, it's depression. I lose my appetite as well.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 4:28pm

I wish I was having trouble eating cause I could stand to lose some weight.

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Registered: 06-21-2008
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 5:51pm

Yes, I think it is depression. I have been trying to avoid admitting that or going down that road, but I guess it is inevitable in the process of grieving b/c that is essentially what we are doing is grieving the marriage or the relationship. Someone told me divorce is a living death. I wasn't exactly excited to hear that but it did put it in terms that it is ok for me to be feeling this way about what I am going thru; that I'm not crazy for feeling bad or moody or down some days, etc...


I haven't tried the Rescue Remedy. If the sleeping gets too out of hand I will remember that. Thanks. I sleep better when I am not at my own house too.

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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 6:00pm

you might lose some weight once he's in his own apt! ...

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Sun, 07-20-2008 - 6:06pm
I can honestly say I think it's normal. I've just started all this. My husband blind sided me with divorce talk and I haven't eaten anything in a week. I sleep maybe
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Registered: 06-06-2008
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 4:34pm

It's been 8 months and I have lost 35 pounds (was at 40 so I'm climbing)-I didn't need to lose the weight and have to stuff myself with junk food for 2 days before seeing my doctor because he is sure there is something wrong-well yeah I'm getting divorced after just retiring from 30 years in education, having my last kid leave home-I've tried to explain to the doctor that this is the Divorce Diet and I plan to profit from it when all is said and done. Unfortunately someone here posted that she had already come up with that. I feel like a country and western song most days....husband left me....lost my job....kids are gone...just me and my dog! Have to work on that. Anyway definitely a husband springing something like this on you is a great way to drop some pounds-the 1st time I went to the grocery store I walked out with nothing-I had always bought what everyone else (mainly STBX) wanted and honestly had no idea what I like to eat!! This from an educated person (guess that's subjective so let's say a few grad degrees)! Also this is not a diet I would recommend to anyone!!! Totally not worth the side effects.


The hardest thing was to get thru to my parents that this too shall pass. They've always been concerned that I don't eat enough anyway-they plan lunch as they eat breakfast and supper as they eat lunch. I did have to go to my doctor because I had a close call with an overdose and he put me on a 2nd antidepressant and the appetite and sleep have improved-But in all fairness there, it does appear there is an end in sight with the settlement agreement and that may also be helping although I'm scared to death to think of moving on after more than 30 years with the same man.

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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 5:11pm

Hi Daisy,


I think I have lost about 15 lbs and like you I don't really have much to lose but I will have to admit I look better and feel better too. I'm tall, slender, athletic so I can hide what I don't like but no one would really would know the difference anyways!!


I'm sorry, but your post made me laugh... You feel like a country song... so do I sometimes!!


I'm actually going back into education. I've been out of teaching for 5 years due to pursuing SBTX 'dream' with him and prior to that I taught for 3 years. I got called about a job from the small community where I grew up so I am 'heading home' sort of I

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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 5:15pm
Ya, I get the whole thing about forcing food. I do too sometimes. It's becoming less and less of a thing I have to do but it's still there. It's better when I am away from home, out of
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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 6:19pm

You mean there is a divorce

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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 7:32pm

Yeah my friend took me out to lunch and a movie and I finally ate half a burger. That's the most I've eaten in over a week. I mean I'm definitely shedding the weight I gained while I was pregnant but it's frustrating. Plus I know he's eating and sleeping and it makes me angry that he can do all those things and I can't. Like it's just affecting me way more than him. I have always loved food (not that it always loves me back) so it's hard to not want to eat anything. I haven't had a single craving. I'm basically only drinking gatorade and a pepsi here and there. It's hard but I guess we just need to keep on going. I don't feel much like it though.


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