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| Tue, 08-26-2008 - 10:58pm |
My STBX claims his lawyer is the states #1 divorce atty and the country top 100 all time divorce lawyers. He is completely irrational in so many ways that I have no idea what to believe. He actually claims he is friends with this guy and he will do my STBX's case for less than his normal fees (which are $450/hr). My attorney claims to have battled this guy but I have no idea what to believe. I am freaked out and scared but know I need to fight.
He has a new girlfriend and I know that is why he is trying to get me to settle for less and less. But as much as he says I am psycho and unstable and I know it is not true it still scares me to death. I have never had to fight like this in my life and although that is the very reason why I was a victim/enabler of domestic abuse in the first place it is still VERY hard!!!!
Any words of advice would help!
-Memphis

It's important that you pick your battles. Know what you will and wont/dont want to compromise on. This is a long battle, but when it's over you feel a sense of relief....pride. IT will be the toughest things you'll go through, but in the end you will feel stronger and feel as if you are capable of doing anything!
Dont believe half of what you hear. Most of it is false. Just make sure all of your ducks are in a row and dont settle just to get things done. I hate hate hate fighting....but I knew I had to pick my fights and pick what was truly important to me.....
You'll get through it!! I promise.....
Deb
((Hugs))
Hang in there Memphis.
Think of your stbx-H as nothing more than a big wind storm. Its BLUSTER that is all. The attorney can be nuimber 1 in his own mind but so what?
Make a list of everything that YOU MUST HAVE (no compromises), then make a list of things you WANT to have (some compromise) and then make a list of THROW items. Things you will give up to show that you are willing to compromise.
If stbx-H's attorney is a real jerk then AGREE to NOTHING and let the judge divide the assets 50/50 and then make sure you get the child support and or alimony that you deserve.
You are not walking into this unarmed just make sure that you receive all offers before any meetings. If you receive an offer during a meeting take atleast 72 hours to review it. Agree to NOTHING in a settlement meeting that is new.
I am an attorney and do a few Divorces.
I hope that this helps.
stunned08/sonya
Sonja,
Since I have moved from being totally suspicious of my H's activities, with good reason, and moved to a more indifferent emotional posture, the only remaining hurdle is the financial settlement -- separation of assets, which is pretty
Remember, always smile and READ everything. You would be amazed at some of the things that people try to get away with.
sonya...
Thanks for the advice regarding the smile.