He doesn't even care about the kids!

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Registered: 07-31-2006
He doesn't even care about the kids!
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Thu, 08-03-2006 - 12:49pm

Ok. I have to vent. I am so fed up with my xh that I can hardly stand it. We moved down here from MN 2 years ago, leaving his daughter back in Minnesota with her biological mother. I have been in her life since she was 1 so, as far back as she can remember she has had two moms and she calls us both mom. Her mom and I get along great and even she calls me mom when speaking to dd. So, I usually call her my daughter as she lived with us most of the time for the first 4 years of her life. OK. That's the history. So, dd has been with me since July 6. I brought her down here with me and my son to stay and give her mom a break. Plus, I get visitation of her. Yea, that's right ME, I get the visitation and parenting rights, no my xh and she isn't even biologically mine, if that says anything for him. Ok, so she was down here for her month with me during which time her a--h--le of a father has only seen her 4 times, most of which were an hour here and an hour there. Now this is her last weekend here and my mom is flying down to retrieve Shelby and bring her back up to MN with her and he just wants to have dinner with her Sun. night. That's it. And, of course I am left holding the bag making up excuses for the piece of sh-- so her feelings are hurt. He hasn't even ASKED to see her by himself. I'm posting this on surviving abuse too, so, if you read this again, I'm sorry. I'm just wanting some imput.

I'm going to miss her when she's gone though. It just feels better having her here. Like my little family is more complete. She doesn't want to go back either. Poor kid. Things aren't so good for her back home. I love her mom to death, but she has a severe drinking problem that pus my dd in some precarious situations. And, of cours, I have no say in it since she isn't "my child". Yes she is.

Ok. That's it. Does anyone else go through this crap?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 08-05-2006 - 10:17pm
Just wanted to pass along some hugs.... that sounds like a delicate situation.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~