He finally got it...

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Registered: 03-25-2003
He finally got it...
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 5:59am

Our therapist told us to email things back and forth so the daughter wouldn't know about the turmoil until she HAD to be informed. That was on the 3rd visit. On that visit I still wanted a divorce but was doing the communication homework and all of the sudden both the STBX and the doctor were saying if you can't change your mind there is no use doing therapy anymore the STBX said it was a waste of his money and the Doc said it was a waste of his time. WHAT??? IT WAS ONLY THE THIRD MEETING. Was I supposed to go through a miracle transformation and decide all the issues I had were null and void by the 3rd visit!!! We haven't been back that was a month ago. He lost it last night. He got up in my face and gritted his teeth and was pointing his finger at me and it was the first time in 23 years of marriage I thought he might hit me. But all he did was quietly yell so as not to wake our daughter but there was venom in his words. Then he tells me we are too far in debt for me to leave, that I'll never make it with the kind of petty job I could get. ( i supported him the whole way through college (not financially)