HE IS GOING TO LEAVE ME TONIGHT !!!
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| Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:44pm |
I hope someone can help me, I'm at a loss at what to do.
Short story, lived for almost 4 yrs together got married Sept 07 now he wants a divorce, I have three daughters that seemed to constantly need my help one way or another, 19 and 20 live with us right now
19 is pregnant and fighting with her boyfriend, 20 was living in Dallas and moved back in with me until they fix their problems,
My 24 yr old has 2 kids they lived with us for 6 months she is going thru a custody battle, we found out 2 days ago that he wants to settle so she and my grandkids will be moving to Min. in 2 weeks.
I'm devastated about their move so I went and got drunk, well it did not settle good with my husband, now he wants me out. I'm not an alcoholic I don't drink regularly, I don't drink everyday, I

Not,
If you have to drink to "losen up" and cry and you've done it before perhaps you do have a problem with alcohol. I encourage you to visit Alcoholics Anonymous: http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org. Here you'll find resources and contacts who will help you.
If you want to stop drinking call them.
Even if you don't think you're an alcoholic, call them.
Even if you deny you're dependent on alcohol in any way, call them.
If you want your husband to believe you're serious about doing something about the way alcohol affects you: call them.
Alcoholics Anonymous can help you cope in other ways too. Perhaps once you find strength to address this problem you'll have the strength to help your daugthers cope with their own problems.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
I won't repeat what cl-wisdomtooth said.... but.... "he didn't sign up for this"????
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thank you for both of your posts! cl-wildlucky4me, you have a better understanding of where I'm at, I also dont see nothing wrong with a few drinks every-now-and-then. I dont feel I have a problem with alcohol.
Not,
Then I encourage you and your husband to enter marriage counseling. Any time you have children enter a marriage with you, you're going to have additional challenges. A marriage counselor can help you and your husband identify your issues, determine how to address them (together and individually) and help you cope with what's happening in your lives.
In addition, I will still urge you to visit with Alcoholics Anonymous. One doesn't have to drink all the time or even get drunk to need help dealing with alcohol. It's clear you reach for the bottle whenever you feel troubled. That's not a good sign no matter how often it happens. There are people out there who are "functional alcoholics," i.e. they get to work, take care of their families, and pay the bills, but they are dependent on alcohol. I really urge you to be willing to take this into consideration for the future.
Let us know how you're doing. Good luck and best wishes.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Hi again,
I'm glad that you've talked and are trying to get some of the issues out in the open.... I do agree with cl-wisdomtooth, though... you've got a "family history" of abuse... and just being with a group (like AA) who can keep you aware, could be very beneficial.... especially if the few times a year when you do drink... you.... over do it... I can completely understand why there would be concern any time you've had something to drink and you consider driving.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thank you again for your posts. I will take into consideration talking to a counselor, but I don't think he'll go for it.
I do practise tough love, my youngest hates me right now because she thinks I'm a bad mother because I have stand up to her and made her accountable for her actions. The other two are more aware of the tough love approach and understand why I have to put my foot down sometimes, I just hope that my youngest gets to that point sometime.
Thank you all, Merry Christmas and don't forget the troops.
My Step-son Greg (he's only 19)