He has seen the kids 1 time in 6 weeks!

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Registered: 07-01-2007
He has seen the kids 1 time in 6 weeks!
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Sun, 09-30-2007 - 7:48pm
How do I explain the situation to the girls (ages 6, 8, and 9)?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:22am

Honesty.... "Girls, I don't know why your dad hasn't called or made arrangements to see you, it makes me very sad, just like it does you, but I'm here with you and I'm not going anywhere."


Then, be there to listen to them.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 05-12-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 6:56pm

ITA with Karen...


the thing is that you can't change the situation--you can't make their Dad come see them... and I personally refuse to make excuses for my xh who saw Joey in July for the weekend... before that, he saw Joey in January and before that it was last May...


Joey and I talked about it before his last visit.. he mentioned that he was sad that he didn't get to see his dad... and I told him that it made me sad too and I knew that was a great big hurt for a little boy like him... he then came up with things he could do when he was missing his dad... some of the things he came up with included snuggling mommy, calling daddy, drawing him a picture, those sorts of things...


GL!


Julie


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