He hasn't changed the e-mail addy on the hotel website

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Registered: 08-18-2003
He hasn't changed the e-mail addy on the hotel website
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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 3:00pm

I just checked my e-mail and saw one from the website for the hotel chain we always stayed at; it was a confirmation for a stay this weekend. I know that we didn't make this reservation before we split up. I forwarded it to my husband with the note to please change the address on the account.

It hurts so much to see him going on with his life like this when I know I don't have the money for anything like this! I'm worried about paying basic bills, getting a job and I'm thinking that I don't have any real plans for the weekend other than 1 church even that will take up Sunday morning. I just burst into tears. It hurts so darn much!!! He's surrounded by family who are no doubt "oh poor baby"ing him and I have family left around here and my friends all have weekend plans. I thought I was doing better and then I see this e-mail. DARN DARN DARN!!!! And there's a chance of showers this weekend so I can't even do the gardening I had hoped to do.

Before I posted this I had to answer the phone - it was a call about a job! This will be the first interview I've gotten! What a great way to end what I think of as the end of the Human Resources week! That phone call made me feel so much better!

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Good luck w/ the job--then maybe you'll have money to stay at a hotel too.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
I have been D since 2004, but I totally understand. My xH does things when he has the money and pays for it later when he doesn't. His mom has money, so I can still relate. My xH, my DD11 and his mom just too a week long vacation that I could never afford.

The kicker is he is still paying CS arrears. But I degress....

We just have to remember that it is none of our business and there more to life then what kind of vacations we can afford.

Good luck on the interview!
Serenity
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Registered: 08-18-2003

Thanks for the support. It makes me feel better just being able to write here and know people understand!

I live near where Hurricane Irene hit hard. I've made plans to volunteer on Monday; I can't give money, butu, I can give time. It's a blessing because he e-mailed me and asked if he could come here Monday and pick up a few things he left. I said no and IT FELT GREAT!!!

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Registered: 01-02-2008

Good for you for you are now learning how to set boundaries.. Keep it up and with these baby steps you will be able to

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Registered: 08-17-2001

In the months after our separation, my ex used to "accidentally" give me things with my mail to prove that he was dating AND having sex.

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 08-18-2003
I never thought that it might not have been an honest mistake, but, maybe it wasn't ....If he's pulling that kind of stunt I'll have no problem getting more into the anger that my counselor says I haven't found yet!