He left

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Registered: 08-01-2008
He left
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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 12:12pm

Hi, I am new to this board, but have lurked here and there, expecting he would leave and he finally did. I have such mixed feelings, mostly regret. But he is angry and hurtful so should I really be feeling bad about how he is doing? We've been together for 8 years. This is my second marriage and the other one lasted about as long.


This time its a lot harder because there is a child involved.


He is emotionally abusive but doesn't think he is - he calls it the difference between his culture (E Europe) and mine (US). I call it abuse.


I am terrified that he is going to try to kidnap our son and take him overseas and I don't even know where to start with that.


Maybe he won't but he's thrown the threat around too many times that I don't believe him and I told him to get out last night. He came back at

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: momwithdreams
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 2:02pm
If you are really afraid he would take your child, you need to file for divorce and get an emergency motion granting you custody.
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Registered: 07-16-2007
In reply to: momwithdreams
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 2:58pm
Go to where passports are issued, or search online. You can actually have something filed with the government that makes it so no one parent can get a passport for the child without the other, or take the child from the country without the other's permission. Or if you've got a lawyer, consult with them about it. I can't remember the exact details, but the passport people should be able to tell you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: momwithdreams
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 3:09pm
When my ex took our kids to get their passports, I had to give him a notarized statement (their form) saying that I didn't object to it and he could take the kids out of the country.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: momwithdreams
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 11:48pm

No... he can't get a passport for them unless you consent (or he illegally forges your consent...)


I have a link on our


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~