He needs space???

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Registered: 10-09-2003
He needs space???
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 12:53pm

I get so annoyed when I read stories on here about the spouse "needing space". My stbx told me that he needed space, too. That he needed to figure out if he wanted to "settle" for me for the rest of his life or get a divorce and be happy! Um, whatever!! He pulled that crap on me 3 times when we were married and I waited for him every dang time. (The second time we separated for a year, filed for divorce and right before it was final he came back to me...and I took him with open arms, ugh.) Why oh why is it such a hard decision? Either they love you or they don't, right? Well, this last time, I told him that was it. He could take as much time as he needed somewhere else! Space, my ass!

Sorry, guys, I really needed to get that out. I'm too good for him anyway.

Katy

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: mkatyb
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 3:17pm
haha, that was an awesome rant. This is the second time my stbx and I have been seperated and I am constantly reminding myself that I deserve better, and of all the horrible things he did to me, so I'm not a dumb#ss again and take him back! I too don't understand how you can love someone one minute, and not the next...or in my case someone else. Then me...then someone else....he has issues!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: mkatyb
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 6:27pm

Good for you!


"needing space" means "I want to play for a while"


and "settle" means "if I can't find something that I think is better, I'll be back.... love of my life, ole dear, oh honey"


No fixable issue, in my opinion, is improved by space.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 02-23-2007
In reply to: mkatyb
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 6:55pm
In my personal experience he needs enough space to self-destruct his life. Glad I gave it to him - so he didn't desctruct mine and the kids as well.