He is out of control - CRAZY!!!!!

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Registered: 06-11-2004
He is out of control - CRAZY!!!!!
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:41am

I am actually afraid for my life now with my ex. Yet again he caused another fiasco on Saturday for the pick up, I left messages for my lawyer and my son's that day and Ive already called both lawyers this morning and left messages with them. He accused me of hitting him I didnt. He swung to hit me because he wanted me to get away from his car, he didnt want me to see whether or not he had a car seat. Thank God my sister, niece and her boyfriend was there. So I have witnesses that I didnt hit him.

I am just at my wits end Im so upset and Im actually afraid for my life. He took off speeding down the block, went straight through the stop sign at the end of my block. He is a stark raving maniac. My God why is he doing this.

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 4:55pm

I didnt mean you honey. There was really one in particular who seemed to have an attitude in their posts.

I dont mean to come across as ungrateful I have been on this board a very long time and Im not that way. But some of what that one person said seemed judgemental.

Thanks again

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 7:48pm

I just cannot even begin to imagine dealing with a man like this! It's like the only reason he wants to see your DS is because he wants to get at you. If he was truly concerned for and loved DS he would not be pulling this crap on you.


Yes, he needs to grow the F up. My STBX needs to do the same. Unfortunatly, there's not a whole lot that the court will do about that, been there, done that! You could try talking to the baby's attny and see if the fact that his actions are causing major emotional distress in your child might do anything at all. I couldn't imagine putting my child through such foolishness (on HIS part). How can a man do that to his own son??? I know that I tried for months to get the courts to do something about STBX, however, as long as the kids weren't being physically hurt then they wouldn't do anything. Really, they COULDN'T do anything. What a shame that we have to wait for our child to have physical evidence of abuse before the court will do anything about it.


Like many others have said, just don't deal with him. He's baiting you, don't bite! Believe me, I KNOW how hard it is not to react to my STBX. He is still the one person on this planet that knows just the buttons to push to piss me off more than anyone else can. I NEVER lose my temper, except with him. So, I just have to do all that I can do to not react to him anymore. B/c of my refusal to engage in his little games it did get worse for a bit b/c he was trying harder. Now it's pretty much stopped. It is sooooooo hard not to just pick up something and throw it at his head sometimes, but, I just have to remember that in the end, HE is the one that will look bad and the kids will see that HE is the bad parent, not me.


Good luck! *hugs*

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 8:31pm
HUGS, luv! I HONESTLY can't imagine how you deal with such a difficult situation, and I KNOW you are doing the absolute best you can. It's not like you ran after him, screaming, waving your arms, demanding to see a car seat! It was a perfectly reasonable request to see a car seat. There's NO reason for him to start acting crazy over it.

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