He really doesn't get it

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Registered: 11-28-1999
He really doesn't get it
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Fri, 06-06-2008 - 2:17pm
Last night I was having a discussion w/ DH about our financial issues.
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Registered: 04-27-2008
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 5:57pm

Hey music!
I'm not in love with my STBX either. In fact every time I see him, it reinforces my correct to decision to tell him to leave (aka kick him out). Although I do miss a form of companionship, I do not miss spending any time with him. He too is extremely negative about everything, blaming everyone else for all his woes; excuse me...you have been CHARGED with theft/fraud and it's someone else's fault?? :S geez

I don't even think I could be friends with him. I'm not entirely sure what's wrong with him (other than the alcoholism) but I've been desperately searching personality disorders. He seems to cover quite a few of them across the board, but none of them totally?

Oh, and on another note, banker didn't phone about the possible buy/out/signing over, but did talk to a co-worker who had their X sign over the house two years ago and it can be done here...so we will wait and see if he's good with his word.

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Registered: 06-06-2008
Sun, 06-08-2008 - 10:47am
I was shocked that my husband felt that we could live together in separate bedrooms and that when this was over we would be great friends-(that day he said he still felt deeply for me-what the heck is that) But reading on this list several of you are having to share the house-I can't imagine it. I do find myself wanting to be with him and thinking I still love him (until he sics his lawyer on me) but we were married almost 30 years. My doctor told me prisoners don't want to leave jail after serving that long-I try to remember that it really is just that I've never known anything except being with him. Kinda scary to jump out into the world although
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 10:40am
On Sat. I was trying to go over the figures on the mortgage w/ him.