He said better or for worse!!!!!!
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| Wed, 10-11-2006 - 1:09am |
You know... I lived many years listening to my STBX complaining about how he is trapped and stuck and feel miserable because I was in his life causing all the agonies. Everything that I did was wrong according to him. I was wrong for paying bills on time because that left us with less money. I was accused of trying to kill him for learning to cook his favorate cuisine because it uses oil... I was wrong for going back to college even though it did not concern his money, not even a penny.
So I came to the point of telling him to get lost. I worked hard and gained the ability to look after kids and I without any help from him. I told him that he can start a new life and forget about us. But what did he do? He'd rather use his energy to make my life miserable.
You see... I refuse to believe that he actually believes what comes out of his mouth. Don't tell me any human being can be that retarded. Even though he denies it, he must be just saying things with the hopes that I may believe those nonsense. Actually, I was stupid enough to argue with him. Come to think about it, I was arguing with him because I hated being wrong. How immature...
But I am to the point that I really don't care what he believes. When he calls me up to complain about me, I usually remind him that is why we are divorcing and there is no need for us to talk about feelings anymore. The other day, he brought the God and the Bible with him that I am breaking the marriage. Dude, you abondoned your responsibilities!!! Then he said that a wife is supposed to help husband, meaning pay for all the bills and do everything else if needed. I told him I don't need such a worthless husband, and he said we are supposed to be there for each other for better or for worse! He wants to be such a religous person exclusively toward what a wife is supposed to be doing, but disregards everything else.
I know, I know... I should have just hang up the phone, but I was so entertained by his ignorance. Isn't he incredible!!!

Good for you for seeing the hypocrisy in all of that. And good for you for being able to laugh at it!
I really love that finger wagging "you swore before God" act. Yeah, buddy, well you swore to a lot of things too and I see none of them happening. And to think that I used to let it get to me...
Oh it gets better. He has 1 child from the previous relationsihp. Today he left me a message at my work, asking if I could cover her healthcare insurance under mine, so that he does not have to pay for the monthly premium!!! Seriously though... what the hell is he thinking??? He should be adding our kids under his insurance, not ask me to look after a child that is not mine.
It makes me realize that how wrong this relationship is. Everytime I hear from him, I realize how wrong this relationship is. He just wants someone else to look after his responsibility, and I used to be that person. After this relationship, at least I learned to respect myself. I thought I was doing a great favor or being very helpful, but I was just being used. There are certain things men do not ask woman if he has any integrity. I really, really learned that.
If STBX really wants to go down the bible path, I believe the intent of the new testement biblical passages, referring to marriage, is that the husband and wife are obedient to each other. Its not just one way.
If you want to have some real fun, read through Old testement Numbers and Leviticus -- the codified Ancient Jewish laws, and then tell him about his failings, most of which where punishable by death.
As to "for better or worse ..". Let him know that he was the worst!, which is clearly beyond the range of better to worse.
Quite frankly, I cannot tell if he's crazy or just plain stupid.
You should hang up the phone immediately in the future. Although you indicate he is entertaining, I sense that his rants upset you greatly.
It never ceases to amaze me how self righteous some folk can get when they are assessing your actions. All the while, they are refusing to acknowledge that what ever that action is, it is a direct
Peace,
Di
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