He says he's getting help for alcohol

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He says he's getting help for alcohol
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Sun, 08-14-2005 - 9:43pm
STBX told me today that he's done with booze, and will seek counseling. As I've said before, I think he's just making nice to try to get back home. For me, it's over and done with, and I'm moving on. IF he's getting sober, good for him. I gave him some pamphlets about local AA meetings that I picked up recently, and he willingly accepted them. I guess we'll have to wait and see if he can live a sober life.
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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 9:31am

Good for him I agree. I also think it's great that you wouldn't take him back even if he does get help. Maybe everything will work out for him after he gets sober. Good for you, your moving on, me too. It's great isn't it? I feel like 25lbs has been lifted off my shoulders.

Stacy

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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 10:53am

I think it is important for you to stay strong in this one. Your right, he is telling you this so you will take him back. IF he really gets the help and sticks to it, good for him. HE will feel better for it. You on the other hand know all there is to know about living with someone who uses alcohol to escape and it's not pleasant. You deserve better and I hope you know that.


Many hugs to you and CONGRATS for being so strong!


Angelena






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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 2:31pm
Just 5 minutes ago he was asking to reconcile... we have court tomorrow, and he wants to ride with me to the courthouse; I would imagine to try to woo me back. I told him that he needs YEARS of sobriety, and that I felt reconciliation is not productive for me. AND I said to him, "Just 2 weeks ago, you had beer in your fridge. Saturday, you had a beer at Albert's house, even though you told me that Albert 'pressured' you into drinking it. You've expressed an interest in dating..." His reply was: "The beer has been in there for a while." If he's serious about quitting booze, he'll ditch the beer. He just doesn't get it. I think I'll ride alone.
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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 2:39pm

I agree... riding alone is a good idea.


Hugs to you and again, CONGRATS for being so strong.