He is trying to claim abandonment

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Registered: 11-23-2006
He is trying to claim abandonment
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Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:54pm
I have just told my husband that I want I divorce he is against it. I haven't been happy for 3 years - we've tried counseling, I'm just not happy. We have 2 kids, ages 2 & 4. I am scheduled to be my friend's matron of honor in 2 weeks. The wedding is out of town. My husband is threatening that if I go to the wedding he can claim abandonment because I will be gone for 4 days. Am I better off staying home? My friend is supportive and tells me to do whatever I need to do. This is a planned trip that we were going to go together. Our oldest daughter was supposed to be their flower girl but since the husband is no longer going to the wedding he was the kids to stay at home with him. I am willing to go alone but don't want this to come back & bite me. Is he is just playing with my emotions?
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Registered: 07-08-2007
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 2:23pm
Get some legal advice before you decide. My husband threatened that when I moved out but there's no such thing in CT I guess. But all states are different, it depends where you live I think. So call a lawyer Monday morning. Good luck
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:06pm
I don't know of any state where it would be abandonment from a man for a wife to leave for 4days, come on, what the heck is he talking about. I think he is just trying to be controlling and make you stay home, where you would be absolutely miserable. I would go and take the children with me to the wedding. There will be plenty of family and friends to help you, and it might do you some good to get away. I pray he's not hurtful or abusive in any way. I wish the best for you, and I know it's hard with small children, but the main thing is take care of yourself. Let him worry about him, and call a lawyer about the abandonment theory so you can cover yourself.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 6:17pm

It's only abandonment if you don't stick to your plan.... like, if you're gone for longer than you stated you'd be gone, have no definite plans to return, and you can't be reached while you're gone.


He's just full of it.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~