He walked out, now what??

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Registered: 07-25-2003
He walked out, now what??
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Sun, 06-15-2008 - 9:57pm

My husband walked out on me and the 3 kids yesterday, and said he wants a divorce. No warning or anything. I came home from a b-day party and all his clothes were gone. I called him to see what was up (we haven't been fighting), and he said he was tired of all the $h!t and wasn't going to deal with it anymore. I asked about counseling and he said "No, I am done. I want a divorce" We have 3 kids 3 and under, and he's never been able to handle them. They completely stress him out, and all he does is complain about the kids. Honestly we had a great marriage until we had kids. I just don't think he realized what fatherhood was until it hit him in the face.

This is seriously out of left field to me. We'd been getting along great, and everything had been going well. This isn't the first time he's walked out on us, but it has to be the last. I cannot keep letting him do this to the kids.

My question is what happens now? He's essentially up and walked out on me and now I'm left to pick up the peices. The kids don't understand why daddy isn't here (they think he's at work). We have a house neither of us can afford alone, but it needs some work that he's suposed to have done and hasn't. I have a car loan, college loan, and credit card bills.

I think he's been planning this. He's been acting funny for a little over a year now, very distant, moody, and always seemed unhappy. When we moved into this house a little over a year ago I tried to get him to put all the money from our previous house into this one, but instead he paid off his truck and college loan. So, now other than our joint stuff (house and my van) he has no bills.

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Registered: 06-12-2008
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 1:47am

You're not alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2003
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:22am

Thanks.

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 12:30pm

Hi there nursencop.


Yikes!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 3:28pm

I think you got some good advice.