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he wants to get back
| Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:47pm |
i just wanted to vent a bit. i guess i dont have a real question.
but my ex wants to get back
i dont.
its just hard, it hurts me to see him want something and not give it to him.
if i would go back nothing would be different anyway.
and i have a great SO now. i wouldnt give him up for anything.
but its still hard to see your ex unhappy, ya know? even after everything he did, and how badly he treated me, i still hate to see him sad.
but my ex wants to get back
i dont.
its just hard, it hurts me to see him want something and not give it to him.
if i would go back nothing would be different anyway.
and i have a great SO now. i wouldnt give him up for anything.
but its still hard to see your ex unhappy, ya know? even after everything he did, and how badly he treated me, i still hate to see him sad.

winterlightningstorm...
Consider your EX one of the bad chapters of your life....and ignore any of his requests for a reconciliation.
You are NOW enjoying a much better chapter with your S.O.....who treats you better and loves you like crazy!
Move forward....that's how you "survive divorce!"
Pianoguy
Yes it is hard. it stirs up all kind of guilt, second-guessing oneself (what if I had been different - more patient, better, still there... ).
My ex does the same regularly. I have no SO... probably never will, too burned out and tired and mistrusting. Yet what keep me sane is - for a twist of fate I regularly get the m^love msg he sends to his current GF...
Not wanting him back, and not wanting him to feel bad... but not wanting him HAPPY either. what a circus.
I totally understand how you feel b/c I don't like to see my STBX sad, struggling or unhappy.
sometimes it is just so helpful to hear what y'all have to say.
lets me know im not crazy. or if i am im in good company anyway!
hugs to you all and have a nice weekend
:)
ugh! Don't fall for it!!!!!! You know how he is and you HAVE TO ask your self WILL YOU be happy if he comes back? Given all he has done?
I go through this scenario in my head A LOT, what if my ex asked to come back.... I'd say NOPE! I don't want his cheating, lying, selfish ways back in my life. You just have to ask yourself if you would truly be happy if he came back.... hurt or not, he did this.
Hugs and Good luck!
Angelena