He won't accept the separation
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He won't accept the separation
| Fri, 08-17-2007 - 2:53pm |
My marriage has been rocky for the past 1-2 yrs. During that time I tried to work on things. My H always said we didn't have any problems...it was all me. So I tried self help, went to conselling by myself with no improvement that lasted. 3 months ago I was fed up and told H I wanted to divorce. At that time he then decided to try conselling with me. I have tried but I no longer love him. So last night I told him that it was not working and again I want to divorce. He was shocked. Thinks that I just gave up on our marriage. I was calm when we talked so he thinks I am cold. I have already grieved the end of our marriage. I am tired and just want to get on with my life. He wants to keep trying but I just can't anymore. He keeps pleaing with me to stay and try longer. I have already tried for almost 2yrs. Where his trying has only been the 3 months. How can I get him to see that I am done. I give up. I have gotten to the point where I can not go back. I don't want to get mean or nasty with him. I know he is hurting. Short of serving him with papers??
We have 2 kids and I want this to be a friendly divorce if there is such at thing?
Has anyone else had this happen??
We have 2 kids and I want this to be a friendly divorce if there is such at thing?
Has anyone else had this happen??

Yep. Totally normal. You are done; he isn't and isn't gonna be for a long time. Think how long it took you to get to done. Gonna be awhile.
My stbx got to where you are.
As for your h--gonna take time and expect alot of anger and hurt before he ever gets to cooperative. I "cooperated" through my anger and hurt because of the kids. Not saying you are wrong or he is right, just suggesting the feelings are quite normal.
M
I could have written your post!!! I have been done for a long time. I relaized I just don't love him and everything he does is never gona be enough because I am done. He is not yet there either. He too was un-willing to try until I said I wanted to leave then he did. but for me it was too late!
hang in there.. hope it is easy for you.. I too was hoping for the friendly.. not sure if it does exsist..