He won't divorce me
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He won't divorce me
| Mon, 01-30-2006 - 5:33pm |
My marriage is over but when I asked for a divorce my husband completely ignored me. Instead he told me that everything wrong with our marriage was my fault, and gave me a list of things that I need to change.
The thing is that I am happy with who I am, which happens to be the same person I was before we were married, and I don't want or have any intention of changing that.
We do not speak or do ANYTHING together. A good day is one without an arguement. We had sex a total of 5 times in 2005, and we have not even been married 2 years!
I want to enjoy life and I am excited to be single again. How do I make him accept this and let go? I don't want this to get ugly- I loved him very much, but he's making me miserable and I am a very happy, life-loving person. He acts like it is a burden to wake up in the morning. Has anyone been through this? What do I do? I am completely emotionally checked out of this marriage- I just need it to be legal so I can move on.
The thing is that I am happy with who I am, which happens to be the same person I was before we were married, and I don't want or have any intention of changing that.
We do not speak or do ANYTHING together. A good day is one without an arguement. We had sex a total of 5 times in 2005, and we have not even been married 2 years!
I want to enjoy life and I am excited to be single again. How do I make him accept this and let go? I don't want this to get ugly- I loved him very much, but he's making me miserable and I am a very happy, life-loving person. He acts like it is a burden to wake up in the morning. Has anyone been through this? What do I do? I am completely emotionally checked out of this marriage- I just need it to be legal so I can move on.

Instead of him divorcing you - why don't you file? Hopefully there are no children involved. I'm not trying to be harsh, but why did you get married in the first place -2 years is a very short period of time.
If you do not want to be married, this is a country where you don't have to be.....
Hugs, Brenda
Hi movingon,
I am in the same position... I guess I am going to look into no fault divorce as my husband does not want to divorce. My problem is that he lives in another state now. But I will start digging information. We need to start somewhere, and we need to stay positive. I know I should never be in this position neither, but same as you, I used to love him and he used to be a different person.
This is my first divorce, and I am nervous, but I will try to stay strong and get through this. I wish you the best. I have been in and out of this board, and people are very knowledgeable and supportive here!
Like Brenda said, in this country, it takes two to marry and one to divorce... how can you get him to accept it? You may not be able to... but you can certainly file and have him served and if he doesn't respond within a certain period of time (as determined by the state), it moves forward anyway...
Good Luck... Keep us posted!
*hugs*
Julie