Heartbreaking comment from dd tonite ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Heartbreaking comment from dd tonite ...
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 6:37pm

& i was stunned.


Quick recap ... its been over 3 months since X has seen dd. I stopped his visitation on Oct 3rd, b/c he was emotionally torturing our 7 yr old dd & she was sobbing, begging not to go - she was terrified.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 11:05am
Might I suggest a counselor who uses play therapy rather than process oriented therapy, if that's not the case. Kids connect better, easier, and faster with a counselor who uses play therapy because that person is "fun." It worked extremely well and much more quickly than I though my dd would because of this.

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 11:51am
We did Play therapy "Fillial therapy" that is child directed, with the counselor from the DV center for 2 yrs. She NEVER talked about ANY issues with her dad. B/c it was child directed, if Ave never brought it up, it never got talked about. It turned out to be a play session only , every time. Thats why i moved her to this woman who has a great rep, AND knows the

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 11:52am
Nah, Im going to stick it out a while longer with this one b/c i think she IS good. Ave is just having a hard time connecting w/ her b/c she sort of "makes" Averey face some things - like "This IS the place to talk about problems". See my other response below.

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 12:14pm

Good god....He has surely crossed a line that he should never be allowed back.


That is sick too a level that is beyond belief...


what a jerk....


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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 12:36pm
I want to make it clear that i dont beleive HE ever said anything to her about suicide (although he has said things in front of her, alluding to having "no life"). She of course knows he is unstable & when her friend told her about the kid committing suicide, dd put it together with X's risk.

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:27pm
My dd's play therapy was not child led. Her T guided her to the things that needed to be talked about. Child led therapy? Well, IMO, the child is going to avoid the issues. They often don't even know what the issues are.

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 8:16pm

That exactly my issue with it. Of course a kid would rather play than address painful issues.

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 8:43pm
I'm glad that the T was in agreement with your response. I was, too, but I'm not a professional. :) I'm sorry that it's going to be so long before she can see her T again. Does she have the option of calling her T for something important? I know that, as an adult, I have this option which is of comfort to me at times. I never have to use it. I just like knowing that it's there. Hopefully, she will connect with her T soon. I had to go through 15 or so T's before I found one that I connected with. Fortunately, the T that my dd saw was in my T's office, and they connected right off the bat. We were lucky with my dd, I know.

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