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| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 11:36pm |
Hello --
Just thot i would introduce myself, i've been contemplating filing for divorce for a couple of years now, but i think i finally feel like i've done all i can and it's time to end it.
my husband has long had anger issues, which intensified after the birth of our daughter 3 years ago. he's been dealing successfully with the anger thru therapy, but a year ago i found out about his ... shall we say, internet habit. we went into couples therapy then, and he swore he had stopped the porn, but then after we stopped therapy i found out he had lied about stopping the porn, and had in fact been lying all through couples therapy.
i almost left when i found out about the lying, but he seemed to be cluing in and promised he wouldn't lie any more ... well, you can see where this is going.
i've finally realized (with the help of lots of therapy, lol) that he's always going to be selective with the truth, whether it's something big or small, he just won't accept that his inability to be straightforward compromises any possibility we have of making this work.
so, i have an appt with a divorce attorney friday (i couldn't get in to see him for 2 weeks and i've just been agonizing the whole time. i just want it over with). on the advice of my therapist i'm waiting to tell him until i see the lawyer, but i feel like i'm keeping this big secret from him.
sigh. anyway. thanks for listening. i'm sure you'll be seeing more of me.
kristin

Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda