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| Sun, 10-28-2007 - 1:49pm |
I've only posted on this board a couple times. Things with me and my husband are just getting worse and worse. Like I had posted before, he STILL isn't paying the mortgage and I have finally realized that I feel this is some subconscious way of getting back at me. He didn't want to move out here, but I did, so he doesn't pay the mortgage. He lost our first house and we were going through alot of stress then too and again he just stopped paying the bills. I truly believe this is some way of getting back at me for alot of things. I can't take it anymore. He is ruining my credit and right now we are in serious forclosure (we got a letter from the mortgage company's attorney two weeks ago) and the only way out I see is to either sell, declare Chapter 13, or do a deed in lieu of forclosure. I told him that if he lost the house I would be leaving. Our relationship is in the toilet as it is. I'm not happy, he's not happy. I don't know really WHY we are hanging on. Maybe for the kids. We were arguing last night and he said he feels that it might just be better if we DID separate and when he said that I felt a huge relief. I wanted it too, but I didn't say it. There is a "get them before they get me" air between us. I'm not out for blood and I'm not out to clean him out. I have a lawyer, but I haven't paid him yet. I don't know really how to go about this whole thing.
Do I HAVE to be separated first, or can I just file for a divorce? I need to go back to my lawyer I guess and talk to him.
I am in school right now and my part time job has ceased for the past 3 weeks because of a bad business deal. I need advice on how I can get assistance and a place to live and all that stuff.

Do I HAVE to be separated first, or can I just file for a divorce? I need to go back to my lawyer I guess and talk to him.
This varies state to state, so if I were you I would do some research on the web and call your attorney for specifics... Good Luck... my xh did a number on my credit too... its gotten a lot better since we've been divorced and I've been paying off the bills owed... Keep us posted!