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| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 1:55pm |
Got some clarification on why my GAL seems to suck - apparently she didnt feel, all these months (like SIXTEEN MONTHS) that she was "involved"!?!?!
In letter to my atty AND X's atty this week: "I have recently received an email by the mother which outlined her concerns in this matter .... she is describing therin issues as "continuous emotional abuse to our daughter". I am concerned that it does not appear that the relationship b/w the parties has improved. I woudl draw your attention to the May 12th, 2005 order, which required co-parenting counseling & that both parties are to encourage love & affection of the minor child with the other parent.


Dear GAL,
I think that I'm understanding that you don't have a current order to be involved, and that's necessary for us to move forward on Averey's behalf and best interest.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Of course Karen is right! Thank goodness we have her level head amongst us!!!!! She's saved me from hitting on many the scathing email!
But I understand what you're going through, even though what MY idiot XH does is about 1/10th what yours does. You know I keep asking Rosie's counselor to explain to me what the emotional abuse and neglect are better than a fight for a reduction in his custody. In addition, I keep asking her if XH's death would really have that big a negative impact on the girls in comparison to the abuse. And like I said, my situation is about 1/10th of what you and Averey are going through.
Definitely stroke this GAL's ego a bit and ask how to get her back in the loop! Once she's in, use her to the fullest!!!
I'm sending good juju in your direction. Just remember that Ave is learning as much from his bad example as your good one!
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
I'm a lurker, but I can't help feeling your pain. I am also having GAL issues.
The county I live in favors father's rights above all else. I was happy that we had a GAL assigned in the beginning of our proceedings. However, although she had reservations that we would be able to manage shared parenting, she went with one week/one week to passify the female Magistrate. I have (2) daughters ages 10 and 13 who were able to speak with the Magistrate. When they told her that they wanted to live with me and see dad on weekends, the Magistrates response was, "that's not an equal amount of time."
I decided to give dad a chance and maybe he would pull through for them. I mean, I love my kids, but I have to say I also enjoyed having a week off to catch my breath and spread my wings again.
Things changed after two months once school started. My little one had to drop out of her competition line because he refused to take her to dance. Yet, he had no problem making sure the older one got to all her track meets. When school started they had no clothes. They started wearing their clothes inside out to hide the dirt and the dog hairs. And the emotional abuse I suffered from him soon was retargeted at the girls.
School counselors were called because the oldest was afraid to go home, and social serviceses came to speak with her. Depression set in and I finally provided my attorney enough evidence to go back into court and ask for change in the parenting plan.
We were granted the old Gaurdian in March. I met with her, only after she cashed my check, for two hours. 2350.00 later, and three weeks from a Court date, she has yet to meet with me or the girls again. I can't get her to return my phone calls.
To top it off, the Magistrate also ordered a psych eval (another 3300.00) and it came back in my favor. The psych said the girls were depressed and it was obvious that something needed to be done. He recommended I get full custody with EX getting every other weekend and Wednesday nights. His report came back 5 weeks ago. Still nothing from her -- no ex parte order or nothing.
I've learned that the Magistrate is no longer using this GAL, but reassigned her since she was our original one. After this is done (GAL Report on Sept 27 along with a motion filed by the EX for me to cover his expenses for filing a change of custody motion) we still have a hearing to look forward to. But you can believe that I will report her sorry butt to the National GAL Orgainization. Until then, I pray that God will grant me the strength, wisdom, knowledge, and patience to get full custody of my girls.
I'm there for you and I do feel your pain.
Thanks for listening.....
Helloooo!.... you gals have saved me many a time, too!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~