Help! Graduating,Dating, &Telling Family
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Help! Graduating,Dating, &Telling Family
| Thu, 11-30-2006 - 4:24pm |
I've been lurking for some time but need to come out for some friendly advice. I have been seperated for 5 months but checked out emotionally years ago, thats a whole other story. My question is this. I have been dating this guy for a few months, we were friends before I separated (and no he is not the cause of the seperation in case anyone is wondering), and he has been very supportive to me in many aspects of my life. I am graduating LPN school in two weeks and would like for him to come as much as he wants to be there. He has been there from the beginning with emotional support, more than I can say for my STBX, and has listened/helped me with the stress I have felt both because of school and with home. My dilema is that my kids know him as a friend, and that will not change for quite a while, but my mother and step father who know nothing about him will also be there. I know the situation will come up eventually and that the kids will have no problem with him attending but I don't know how to broach the subject with my mom who isn't sure why I am even divorcing, again a whole other issue. How do I try to talk to her before graduation and what would I say or do I let things play out at graduation (I know nothing would be said that night but it would be brought up later). We will act as nothing but friends in public as we always do when the kids are around so there will be no real proof but a lingering question. I don't want this whole thing to negatively affect my graduation after I have worked so hard for this but he is important enough to me that I want him there.
Edited 12/1/2006 3:03 pm ET by timejustforme2006
Edited 12/1/2006 3:03 pm ET by timejustforme2006

Hi Time,
Invite your friend to attend graduation and tell your
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
You are the only one to know all the facts, so the only one to be able to make an informed decision.
If you want him to be there, you don't really have a choice but to let the cat out of the bag: if you don't say anything, it is going to come up later as you say, and it is going to be worse. Also, don't think the kids will not understand as well...they are tweens, and nowadays kids that age have a pretty good idea of what goes on.
Finally, as for the best moment to tell, there isn't such a moment. It is a pity that you don't think your mom will be happy for you, rather than be saddened by your decision.
It is wonderful that you found someone who loves and respects you, and who is willing to be there for you. Your questions make me wonder if it is really what you want... :) don't mind my asking. Sometimes when we find too many reasons not to do something, is because deep down we don't want it to happen (I hope it is clear...)...
Good luck.
Time,
Another two cents. I sounds to me like you're more anxious about your mother's disapproval,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020