Help I dont know what to do
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Help I dont know what to do
| Fri, 06-15-2007 - 10:33pm |
Hello all I am new to ivillage but need a place to seek advice. My husband of 14 years had just told me he is leaving. I have 3 children and am 1 year from graduating from Nursing School. I love him so very much and he says he loves me but he wants to be able to go and do whatever he wants to whenever he wants to. I am terrified!! I have never been on my own and dont know how to do this and be strong in front of my kids!!! I am an utter mess I am working full time going to school and being a full time mom. I dont know if I can handle any more than I already am! I have no family to turn to so if anyone can offer any advice I would truly appreciate it! Leslie

You need to contact an attorney to see that your children are taken care of. Good Luck.
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Just sending hugs!
I am a few weeks away from formally separating and maybe beginning a new life. The end of our marriages are really hard, especially with children and school and work. I have had it good in that I was a sahm. Now I am back to school and soon back to work.
We can do it; you can do it! Live through the heartache and the betrayal and forge a new life, right!?
Stick around here for support!
M
BusyMom,
Hmmmmm, so what exactly does your husband want to do that he can't do inside the marriage? His excuse (and that's what it is..an excuse) to divorce you sounds like a pile of horse manure. Whose he seeing? Did you ask? Don't be shocked if there's another woman. A man doesn't have to leave his marriage to do "things" if it doesn't involve sex with another woman (although some stay married and screw around).
I also encourage you to fight for your marriage. Don't cave in so easily. Confront this man and demand to know what it is he wants to do that requires him to divorce you and abandon his children. His actions are those of a juvenile delinquent, not an adult man. What's he running away from?
I really encourage you to confront him about this and I also encourage you to insist you see a marriage counselor together, if possible. There's more to this than he's telling you and the very least he owes you is the truth.
Good luck.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Ohhhh dear, that last bit would really add to the hurt. Otoh, if your friend is the OW and her H ends up on the receiving end of a divorce -- you can support each other. Feels a bit twisted, but I think it can help; cause he will know exactly how you are feeling, iykwim.
Hope it isn't true, of course.
It is hell no matter what.
Hugs to you!
M