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| Fri, 04-29-2005 - 1:59pm |
HELLO THERE MY NAME IS NICOLE AND I HAVE BEEN WITH THE SAME MAN FOR 12 YEARS WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 5 YEARS AND HAVE A 9 YEAR OLD SON, EVERY OTHER YEAR MY HUSBAND STARTS WITH THIS HE WANTS TO BE BY HIS SELF AND THAT HE NEEDS TO FIGURE I=OUT WHAT HE WANTS FROM LIFE, BY EVERY TIME WE END UP BACK TOGETHER IN A COUPLE OF DAYS. YHIS TIME IT HAS BEEN 5 MONTHS AND HE HAS MOVED OUT. HE SAYS THAT HE DOES NOT WANT A DIVORCE AND THAT HE HAS PROBLEMS THAT HE NEEDS TO WORK OUT IN HIS OWN. AND UNTIL HE WORKS OUT HIS PROBLEMS WE CANT WORK ON US. HE SAYS THAT I AM ALWAYS YELLING AT HIM AND THAT I NEVER LET HIM DO ANYTHING THAT HE WANTS HE IS PARTLY RIGHT AND I HAVE OFFERED TO BETTER MYSELF AND WORK ON THE ISSUE. STILL HE WONT COME HOME, I AM SO CONFUSED AND LOST WITHOUT HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS

You will know, better than us, what is best for you. But I will toss some things out there, and you can consider or reject them.
If he is going to live elsewhere, then you need to take care of some very important business now, or you could find yourself in a bad financial situation. Depending upon the laws of your State or Province, you two may still be liable for each other's debta, and he most certainly must continue to provide for his child. You know this man, if there is even the very smallest chance that he might start running up huge debts (leading the exciting single life), or if he is not going to give you child support, then you need to talk to an attorney about either a separation or a divorce.
And if you acknowlege that you would like to learn to yell less, perhaps some counseling would be of help to you? While you are considering it, why not visit your local library? You can look up Divorce, and also self-help books on anger management or building loving relationships, or reducing stress.
Just some thoughts. Best of luck to you.