Help me sort out my feelings
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Help me sort out my feelings
| Wed, 04-30-2008 - 7:32am |
Ok, on April 17 I said I wanted to discuss seperation with my husband.
| Wed, 04-30-2008 - 7:32am |
Ok, on April 17 I said I wanted to discuss seperation with my husband.
I don't know if I can help you sort through your feelings as I am still trying to sort through my own. But I can say that, reading your post, I sense that your husband is in a lot of pain. I think he doesn't want you to leave, but he is protecting himself from the pain of losing you by making it sound like he wants you to go.
People have different ways of coping with life. For some people, acting out is their way. Not everyone possesses the resources to deal with conflict in a mature and rational way. Couples counseling can help you both learn the skills to communicate with each other in a more effective way. If your dh won't go, then I think you should go for yourself. If nothing else, it will help you learn ways to deal with his coping style.
Also, it's worth noting that when one person in relationship makes changes, the other person has to adapt ... someway or another. Once they learn that the usual way of dealing with things doesn't have the same effect, they have to try something else. Just something to think about.
It sounds like we are married to the same type of man!
That is my question.