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| Wed, 06-20-2007 - 4:22pm |
I have posted prior to this and things are escalating (married 14 years, 3 kids). My husband is closing our checking account (I was shocked he could do this)after three years of him hiding financial info, making large purchases without discussing them, changing personality, etc. I am employed and decided it was in my best interest to put my last two paychecks into an account of my own. He makes close to double of what I make and because of not keeping to a budget, couldn't make it without my check. This all started after I went back to work after being home with my children for four years. I am still paying for the kids' needs and groceries, etc. so it's not like I went out and splurged on myself (never did anyway). I found out he was closing the account by email (from him) stating that all automatic withdrawals should be stopped becasue the account was closing in two weeks. What steps do I need to take to protect myself and my children? Any books/websites recommended? It seems that email is very cowardly. Any advice will be appreciated.

Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
Are you still living in the same house; can't recall.
Doesn't sound like he wants to work collaboratively. Sounds like he intends to punish you financially, never mind the consequence for the kids. Sorry.
I should create a macro with my advice, but here it is quick 'cause I gotta make dinner:
1) Interview attorneys 2) collect any financial info you can get your hands on, especially tax returns 3) you may need a forensic accountant who can follow the trail of your husband's assets from whatever records you do have(ask your attorney) 4) Reading ... I didn't find anything helpful about divorce, per se, more about how to help the kids deal. If you want those titles, let me know.
In my state, if stbx has moved out you can file for divorce based on disertion. They usually freeze assets and issue a temporary cs amount and ss if warranted. Sounds like this will be an adversarial process so find a good lawyer.
Hugs to you.
M
Nadine - deenie1979