HELP! New to internet dating....

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Registered: 07-24-2003
HELP! New to internet dating....
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Mon, 03-13-2006 - 10:03pm

Well, actually new to dating in general!!! I have been browsing a particualr internet dating website and see some possibilities. I am TERRIFIED to email them. I am an internet dating VIRGIN!!!

I need to keep reminding myslef, "I am attractive, smart and have a good heart". I KNOW I am not ready for a serious relationship, however, I DO want to date.....I think???? Am I just needy? How do you know?

Beanie

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 7:19am

I am sure others will have lots of good advice about this topic.

I know this is not really the popular view, but I had been done with my marriage for so long, I did start to date soon after I filed and we separated. I honestly wasn't looking to do so, but someone wonderful came along.

That being said, I think it is generally better to wait to allow the reality of divorce to set in (see how I don't follow my own advice!) for a little while before you start dating. Also, brining another person into the mix during the divorce proceedings can create A LOT of insanity (trust me, I know this one all too well!).

There is another issue, the legal ramifications. Dating during your separation could possibly have an impact on a divorce settlement, but very unlikely. You should run it by your attorney....trust me, they've heard it all before.

Lastly, if your lawyer gives you the green light, and you feel you'd like to go out on a few fun dates, I think you should! The ego boost of spending time with men that enjoy your company can feel great. Just be careful, protect your heart, and protect yourself.