Help, STBXH may be introducing OW
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Help, STBXH may be introducing OW
| Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:40am |
Yikes, I got a call from the husband of the OW last night. She was irate because, he can't take their daughter this weekend and she has important plans. Well, my stbxh has my boys this Saturday and an Sunday. We only separated one month ago and he has only had the boys for one weekend. I made it clear that the child psychologist said under no circumstances should he meet a new "partner" for at least six months. Hell, how about 6 weeks?!?!?! Has anyone had success with the family courts in this situatuon? I'd like to ask for full custody until the final divorce degree on on the grounds that my stbxh isn't making sound parenting decisions regarding the children's psychological health.

Yikes,
I sympathize with your plight, however at the risk of being flamed it is best not to fight over this issue. I guess you could try to get full custody until the divorce is final, but eventually he will be able to do on his own time with the children what he wants to do unless he is doing physical harm.
The same thing happened to me and all I can do is teach my son when he is with me about morals and values.
Hugs to you.
I don't think you'll be flamed. I know I'll have to stomach it at some point. Its just too soon to be good for the kids at all. The fact that he selfishly is exposing them without regard for their wellbeing really pisses me off. If he does confirm that he is planning something, I guess my last action will be to have the Dr. call stbxh and at least tell him its a bad idea.
Thanks for the hugs.
I hope that this does not happen to you, but unfortunately it is the reality of the situation. We have to be strong for our kids and try to teach them, as best we can, what is right and wrong. In my case, the stbx and his ho are not going to be the ones doing this. They have no morals. She is expecting his bastard sometime this summer, so that will be another mess I'll have to clean up after.
Good luck to you. I wish you the best.
OMG!!!! stbxh pulled a freaking whopper!!!! This was his weekend to have the boys...well, he said he was working overtime last night and couldn't take them till this am. I called the plant and he wasn't working...looked on our joint checking acct and he was at a local bar.
It gets much worse....
Calls early in the am and says when can I have my boys? I'm like" aren't you tired, you worked last night? Says he'll manage. I point out that I know he didn't work last night and tell him the boys will be ready at 9:30. Anyhoo, my son made a Pinewood Derby car this week to race today. Told stbxh that he would be taking him, emailed the info. and put it on the visitation calender. Well, he shows up and when I remind him, he acts like he has never heard of it. They leave. Come to find out they blew off the Derby and he took them to Port Discovery (a Childrens Museum) with the OW and her daughter. Holy freakin' crap!!!!! Are you kidding me?!?!?!? So, I called my kids to say goodnight and ask my son: How was the derby? He says FINE!!!! Talked to the younger one who tells me, oh we didn't go, we went to this fun place. Asked for my older boy back (he's 8)and tell him he doesn't need to lie and I'm not mad but, we can't lie about stuff. stbxh, gets on the phone and says that son didn't want to go and he wasn't making him. This guy makes me soooo sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Grrrr........
I am stunned!!!