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Here we go again
| Thu, 11-17-2005 - 4:49pm |
Hello All,
Im at a loss and afraid I might lose my child. My ex-husband did not follow the divorce decree last week and i ended up having to enforce through the police. He refused to bring my child to me. I won this battle, but I dont know about the war. The war being I just got served last night and my ex is taking me back to court again. He tells me he is going to take my child away from me, because me calling the police on him makes me an unfit mother and how dare I put my child through that situation. I wanted to cry because im like how much more of this do i have to go through, we are divorced, let it go and move on, i pray to God to please let this man leave me alone & live his life. I understand his man left and now he is w/his new gf. Ive accepted this, so now all i ever wanted was to be friends w/this man & now he's ruined it. I never wanted full custody, because I believe a child should know both their parents, if theyre able to. I really think that my ex w/his new gf are wanting a family & they want me out of the picture. I have tried everything in my power to be friends w/this man and he just is not having it. When I recd the papers everything was written in his gf's handwriting, i am like who is she to know my business I was mad because everything they are saying is lies, all lies. I wonder why is she filling out this form for him. Is she taking me back to court or is he? I keep wondering that things happen for a reason, i wonder the reason for all this stress from this man, what is the lesson to be learned, do i stay & fight, or just let go and let things take there course, at times I feel lost & I wonder what is it God wants from me, am i doing something Im not suppose to do or is there something else Im suppose to see. This has been going on since March, I dont know how much more I can take. Im strong, and before I could hide everything on the emotional side, but I do believe its starting to take its toll on the physical side now as well.
Im at a loss and afraid I might lose my child. My ex-husband did not follow the divorce decree last week and i ended up having to enforce through the police. He refused to bring my child to me. I won this battle, but I dont know about the war. The war being I just got served last night and my ex is taking me back to court again. He tells me he is going to take my child away from me, because me calling the police on him makes me an unfit mother and how dare I put my child through that situation. I wanted to cry because im like how much more of this do i have to go through, we are divorced, let it go and move on, i pray to God to please let this man leave me alone & live his life. I understand his man left and now he is w/his new gf. Ive accepted this, so now all i ever wanted was to be friends w/this man & now he's ruined it. I never wanted full custody, because I believe a child should know both their parents, if theyre able to. I really think that my ex w/his new gf are wanting a family & they want me out of the picture. I have tried everything in my power to be friends w/this man and he just is not having it. When I recd the papers everything was written in his gf's handwriting, i am like who is she to know my business I was mad because everything they are saying is lies, all lies. I wonder why is she filling out this form for him. Is she taking me back to court or is he? I keep wondering that things happen for a reason, i wonder the reason for all this stress from this man, what is the lesson to be learned, do i stay & fight, or just let go and let things take there course, at times I feel lost & I wonder what is it God wants from me, am i doing something Im not suppose to do or is there something else Im suppose to see. This has been going on since March, I dont know how much more I can take. Im strong, and before I could hide everything on the emotional side, but I do believe its starting to take its toll on the physical side now as well.

Why would calling the police on him make you an unfit mother? I would think the opposite. If you didn't care, you wouldn't call right? It seems like he is grasping at straws. I can't even try to be friends with my stbx because everytime he opens his mouth another lie pops out and I don't want to hear it anymore.
Good luck!
Michele
Hang in there. He sounds so much like my ex. He's just a bully. My guess is that over the course of your marriage, he learned that being a bully towards you got his way. He's just "upping the stakes", now...no different from his past behavior. What HAS changed is your behavior. It's hard to change behavior with your ex. It's uncomfortable, even though it's healthy.
If he was not following the court order, then HE is in violation, and the judge will see through his bully tactics. Trust me. The judge will see it. I was fearful through my entire divorce proceeding, as well. But, in the end, the judge saw through the situation.
Your ex thinks that this court date will scare you into submission. You know that won't happen. Hang in there and you will succeed in showing him that you won't be bullied, and that the legal system is on your side.
Just tell him if he wants to go to court to name the time and place! That's what I do with my ex. He complains about the custody schedule and I say file the papers and bring it on. That shuts him up for a couple of weeks.
Wonderful how the GF's get involved and show up in court as a "witness". A friend of mine from work is going through that BS. I mean you can't lose your kids because you called the police for crying out loud! Hell crack addicts can keep their kids if they aren't abusive and can clean up their act.
Your calling the police because he isn't following a court ordered agreement shows lack
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I do take his threats as a sign to intimidate me in some way. Its a scary thing though having to go back to court for full custody. I hope the court see things my way. I think Im a great mom, no matter what my ex says. My child is everything to me. I just transferred my new job to another area of the state and I just got a new townhome and am putting my child in a new daycare. This is all about 45 min to an hr away from my ex. Ive been telling him for months now Im going to move, so I can only imagine what role this will play in the court proceedings.
Thank you all for your support.