Here we go again - dd in the middle

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Here we go again - dd in the middle
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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 8:45pm

My ex was supposed to get our dd tonight, but since it was mother's day, and he had other plans, he decided to just get her tomorrow.

An hour after I talked to him and arranged everything, he called me back. He said that he had plans for tomorrow, had made them a week ago, and couldn't visit with/keep dd until at least 1pm.

Well...I have finals all day tomorrow, had counted on him to watche her AGAIN, and once again, he backs out.

So, I asked him what was more important...getting him some on the side from some random person, or having quality time with his daughter. He continued to say that he had made plans a week ago...

I told him that one day, he would regret all of the things he was doing, especially the things that involved our dd.

Needless to say, he hung up on me. But before he did, he yelled at me to just go ahead and bring her in the morning.

(He called me not even 2 minutes ago yelling at me and calling me a c**t and a b**ch. He is demanding that he gets her tomorrow now, and wants her all night. I'm scared of him, and I'm scared of leaving her with him. He's threatening to take me back to court for split custody..50/50..one week on, one week off. I just can't do that...and I can't continue to live my life like this anymore.)

Well, I really don't want him to have anything to do with our dd, especially if he's going to act and treat her with such disrespect, not to mention me, but I guess I'm not actually relevant in this, I suppose. His teenage girlfriend that he's having this sexual fling with is much more important to him than our baby. His all day and night fishing trip is more important as well. Truly, I don't care who he's seeing or what he's doing, as long as he can be responsible and mature enough to at least take care of our dd when he's supposed to.

I told my dd last night that she was going to see her daddy, and she started crying and saying no. That in itself makes me want to run for the hills, daughter and bags in towe, but I know that's not an option.

I'm so stressed about all of this, and my ex is to blame. Why can't he just grow up. Why does he constantly have to fight with me on every issue....whether it's about our dd or my life in general.

He makes fun of my job, going to school, family, church, etc...and I just can't take it! I want to protect my baby from this horrible man, and I don't know how. I never talk bad about him or his family in front of her, etc., like he does about me and mine. This all seems so childish at times, but I'm about to just break down....

Kait

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 05-13-2005 - 10:48am

Hi Kait.... sorry I'm a little behind chiming in here..... How did it go?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~