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| Sat, 06-25-2005 - 4:29pm |
I was just thinking today of how dysfunctional my husbands family is and wondering why I just didnt run for the hills in the beginning. H has issues and is astranged from parents. They unfortunately are not good people and put him and his brother thru heck when they had marital issues while the boys were growing up. My family was the opposite. I was just wondering if this had anything to do with our issues.
Was your h,stbx or xs family life functional or dysfunctional?

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Yup, I really should have left STBX probably 10 years ago... I did get us both into marriage counseling, and him into indiviidual therapy (as well as myself), and tried to make the marriage work, but deep inside I knew it was a sinking ship. I'll admit, that I hold myself to very high standards, and hold others to those standards as well, or expect them to have the same high standards for themselves, that I do for me.
STBX, like the rest of his family, blames everyone else for their issues, and won't admit that they are pretty screwed up. They think of themselves as the perfect family, because MIL and FIL have been married for 53 years, but their marriage is a disaster. STBX says that they should have divorced 40 years ago. The family looks down on me because I'm from a "broken home" -- my parents divorced. But hey, my in-laws are the ones with the major character flaws, rampant alcoholism, abusive behavior, drunk driving arrests, assault arrests, restraining orders against them, SIL likes to trade her pain pills for oxycontin and has dabbled in heroin, STBX supposedly had a coke problem before I met him... My single mom raised 2 kids without child support, and my brother and I don't have problems with drugs, booze, gambling, etc. While we do have our issues, we don't blame them on other people.
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