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| Sun, 12-17-2006 - 4:23pm |
Well today would have been 3 months that my husband was gone - but he actually came back last night - we were expecting him Friday night but he didn't make it. Our son's tv was messed up - and like I said in my very first post my husband can fix almost anything. I took him coming in much better than the children did..this was the 1st time that he had actually walked in the house since October 8th when he picked up his truck. I thought things went relatively good...he spent alot of time picking up things in the yard - just like he has always done...I went to bed a few minutes after he got home...he stayed outside until about 11:00 - just like always and then when he came in he cleaned and cleaned and cleaned - just like always - my daughter came in and said - "daddy is cleaning up just like he always did". Anyway we spent alot of time talking...he stayed here last night..I told him that there was no reason for him to be paying rent somewhere that he wasn't even living...but he said he had already stopped paying the rent there. We talked about the girl ALOT. He said that I could go to the office and pick up his paychecks for the past two weeks -- but I told him no - and I know that sounds stupid but I can't help that - I told him that he was going to have to learn to be responsible for his own things like picking up his check -and as bad as I need money - I know everyone that works in that office and I don't want to go down there. He left this morning about 11:30 going to Baltimore, Maryland to carry a load - he said it was about a 15 hour drive. I reminded him for the millionth time that he better get that fine straightened out or he wouldn't have a license effect 12-27. He swears he has a receipt where he paid the fine - but the problem is he needs to be in Georgia to take care of it! I asked him if he wanted to know anything about the divorce and when it was going to be and he said no. I told him that he may have to file bankruptcy to get some of his bills off his back - but he would have to save at least $1000.00 to do that. I asked him if he was going to be back for Christmas and he said yes...we'll see. It is so hard to believe that he hasn't given me any money since September 25th. I was happy to see him...and I know you don't understand why - I don't even understand why. He kept swearing that him and her didn't have a "sexual relationship". He said I know you don't believe that but I swear that is true. I asked him if I was living with a man for 2 months and was with them 24 hours a day and then riding in a truck with him - what kind of relationship would he think that I would have with him. Anyway...I told him that I had been tested for STD's & HIV and he should do the same - he said there was no reason for me to and that there "certainly was no reason for him too". Whatever. I am happy today - don't know why....haven't talked to my parents today so don't know how they are going to react to him being here and spending the night...but anyway - well just want to fill ya'll in.

gal, Congratulations on your finding the peace and happiness. That's wonderful that you were able to remain strong and put the responsibility on his back.
The only thing that disturbed me was your unwillingness to go and get his checks. This money is not just about giving you money, but giving you money to take care of your children. You do have a point about his responsibility to take care of things himself, just as long as your children are not suffering for your pride. Sometimes we must humble ourselves for the sake of the well-being of our children. But, again, that is for you decide as you know your situation the best. Thank you so much for sharing what has been going on! Continue to keep your chin up and be positive. >>>HUGS<<< for finding your peace today!! Think of it when you have a day that might not be as well as today.
--Joy
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~