He's back & wreaking havoc already w/ dd

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He's back & wreaking havoc already w/ dd
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:04am
1st off, he wasnt in Mexico - like the girlfreinds X kept calling me & saying. He gave her a bunch of stuff from Costa Rica. Dont know if the girl was with him, dont care either.

He took her overnite last nite.

I just picked her up & 1st thing this morning she begins asking me "Mommy, if it was you who got kicked out of our house, woud you say bad things about Daddy, stuff like he has a girlfreind?"

I told her that "No, i wouldnt say anything bad to you about your Daddy. Did he say some things that upset you?"

She started to cry & told me that he "keeps saying you have a boyfreind, & that you kicked him out & he really really misses home & really wants to come back".

I obviously reassured her that it was ok to feel upset like she does when she hears those things, & that Mommy DID ask Daddy to leave the house b/c he wasnt kind or safe to Mommy - & that it isnt right that Daddy says things to her like that that & upsets her - & i encouraged her that she can always come to Mommy about things that upset & worry her, even when its something about Daddy - & that she can talk to her counselor Lynn about it all. & i told her that i tried for a long long time to get Daddy to stop being unsafe & mean, b/c i wanted us to stay together, but it just got too dangerous for him to stay with us b/c he wasnt safe. & she said "yeah, i remember that once when he was emptying the dishwasher, he was calling you the baddest names ever".

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:14am

You're right.... contempt of court or not... the "damage" is already done.


Unfortunately, the law is usually just a slap on the wrist, and whatever they get away with is far too rewarding for the punishment to have any impact.


Ya... who cares where he went.... did he get a job there?..... so that he'll go away (ya, I know... not the best on one respect, but in another....... maybe).


My EX is on the narrow verge of royally ticking me off about right now... and he has about an hour to redeem himself--he promised me he'd go with me to DD's school to meet with her language arts teacher this morning--I called him to verify the time of the meeting... and no answer.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 8:17pm

How on earth did you manage to

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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 10:22pm

Ugh, R, I had high hopes for some reason for you and Ave.... I'm so sorry that you got to deal with this... and feel so sorry for Ave for having to put up with it too... I'm glad that you emailed your atty to try to get this stopped... some people...

*hugs*

Julie