He's Driving Me Crazy!
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| Sun, 07-16-2006 - 8:50pm |
I can hardly believe it. After no contact what so ever for the past three weeks with kids. Xh shows up on more door step this morning with a Gi Joe helicopter for our 9 year old. I thought it was my sister when the door bell rang, so when I opened the door and seen him, i think my jaw dropped to the ground.
Anyway the oldest was at work and the 9 and 3 year old were home. Nine year old was begging his Dad to let him go with him for a little while (he was on his way to a small town near here to work for a short time---works on his own). He told him he wouldnt have any fun and it was hot. I said to X hubby, "Dont you get it? They dont care where you take them or what you do, as long as they get some time with you." Ended up that he took the 9 year old with him and then took him over to his house for a little bit. Of course I had to go and pick him up.
AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! Now the cycle starts again. I go to pick him (he makes it impossible for me to just honk--I have to go in. Acts all nice, like nothing is wrong, like everything is just great and that we are going to work things out. NOT!! The divorce was final a few weeks--if i had any intention of working things out with him I wouldnt have let the divorce go through. He actually bought S-e-x toys. And fully expects me to use them with him. What a nerve. It isnt about the kids it is about me.
Kids and I are going to Disney World in a few weeks, so he started in about that. How it must be rought to get to go on a big trip while he stays here and works his rump off. Phone calls started again after we got home, things about the trip, about other things we have done this summer, how he cant believe that he bought toys and what a waste of money becouse I wont even play with. Good grief! Who told him to buy the toys anyway. His last message said "thats fine if you wont talk to me then, hope the next few months are real fun for yeah. you guys wont hear from me or see me, but ill make sure they are real fun for yeah.
He is driving me crazy! Why cant he just have a half way decent relationship with the kids and why do i have to be involved??
Thanks for the Vent!

Wow. Do you have a custody arrangement in writing? I would just follow it to the letter of the law. If your ex wants to get off topic when you speak, hang up. If he can't act rationally on the phone, limit contact to e-mail. DO NOT go into his home. If he still insists upon harassing you, it may be time to contact the police about a restraining order. Save any voice mail or e-mails you receive from him in case you do need to go to the authorities.