He's finally staying in his own apt.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
He's finally staying in his own apt.
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 11:41am

I finally got STBX to start sleeping in his own apt. (that he's been paying for for a few weeks.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 3:59pm

Thank GOD.

Your mom is right - he doesn't want to go. Why should he? He has no one, and that is his own doing. He drove off his daughter; he mistreated his wife, and by extension, your children. he's caused so much pain and suffering in everyone's life. Now, he wants to continue to control you and make you unhappy by prolonging his move out. He knows you're worried about the house and if you're not agreeable and compliant every step of the way, he can hold that over you so you worry about the house and the outcome of the divorce.

As you've said, you're a family lawyer. Chances are, you'd be able to stay in the house for the next few years, at least until your son is done with his schooling, regardless of how cooperative or uncooperative your STBX wants to be. I'm not saying be vicious to the guy, but giving him a final deadline to move all of his garbage out of the house and stating you only wish to talk to him about divorce-related matters is perfectly acceptable.

He's out, so don't let him continue to walk all over you! You need this for your own peace of mind...and for your children. Good luck, and keep us posted.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:25pm
The funny part is now he's being as nice as possible, guess because he knows that I don't have to talk to him anymore.