He's getting married
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| Tue, 08-01-2006 - 11:02am |
I haven't posted here in a long time, my divorce has been final for over a year now. But I just got an email from my ex saying that he is getting married! ugh. And the woman is Catholic, so he has to go through this whole Catholic annullment process to essentially negate our marriage, and apparently they need info from me and so forth, so he had to tell me. UGH! I feel like I'm going through the divorce all over again! I thought I was over it and moving on and fine, but I've been crying for two days! I'm upset he's moving on, I'm upset that he is willing to say that our 13 years together was a mistake and never should have happened, and I'm upset that he's apparently marrying some chickie he has known a grand total of two months. We don't even live in the same state anymore, so I really thought I was just DONE with this whole mess.
Anyone else have similar feelings when their ex remarried?
Sandy

Hi Sandy-
My ex and I were divorced in Jan 2004. He was in a relationship with someone 15 years younger than him (she was 27 he was 42). He met her in Jan 2003 while we were still married (I guess he forgot!!). She was supposedly the “love of his life”. Just as I was back in 1987. They dated long distance. He travels internationally for work so he would hook up with her whenever he could. She was originally from Thailand but she lived in The Netherlands. He took our kids to visit her in both places-the last time being Christmas 2004. By March of 2005 they broke up. Two months later he married someone from S. Africa (she still lives there). He claims the relationships did not overlap. YA RIGHT!
So, to answer your question. No, I was not in the least bit sad when he remarried. I actually feel sorry for her. She has no idea what she has gotten into. And, reality will probably not surface for awhile because they do not even live together. He says he has changed, but he said that when he was with the 27 year old. He cheated on her too-with someone from this country.
As far as changing your last name. I too kept mine. I wanted the same last name as my children. However, I re-married last year (to someone who I knew for a year first) so that solved that problem.
Also, my ex and I are both Catholics. (Well, I still am. He is supposedly a Buddhist now.) We were married in a Protestant church. His ex-wife (wife #1, I was #2) asked HIM for an annulment after we were married.
I am sorry you have to re-live everything again. Be strong-you will get through it