He's getting remarried. I'm in shock.
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He's getting remarried. I'm in shock.
| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 5:59pm |
I guess I figured he was such a miserable person that he'd never find anyone else. But he did. Now he's getting remarried to a girl he's only been dating a short time. I'm not sure why this all makes me sick to my stomach, like someone has punched me. It's the shock of it I guess because I just found out he was dating someone. He was a terrible husband, very mean, a bully, and still is, but I still feel a little jealous. There, I admit it. Why though? I guess you can't be with someone for 10 years and not be a little nostalgic. Has anyone been through this? I'm happily married to a great person and I wouldn't trade my life now for anything, so why does it hurt?
Thanks ya'll

Maybe because it proves he CAN appear to be kind of nice long enough to get a fiance. If only he could have pretended throughout the marriage, the way he pretended when you were first dating...
Let go the sadness, and just feel some sympathy for the delusional girl he has ensnared. 'Course, we don't know her. Maybe she deserves sympathy, maybe not...
Thank you for your kindness. I hope, for her sake, she's a ball-buster. My ex gave me two black eyes over the course of our marriage and threatened to make me have an abortion if I got pregnant again (this, after losing a baby that I wanted very much). When I got pregnant with my second daughter, I left shortly after she was born because he was just getting too abusive.
The best revenge is a good life and a healthy body and both are areas I'm paying a lot of attention to now. I need to be healthy for my children and my husband, and seeing that his new fiance is about 100lbs heavier than I am certainly motivates me to keep going and taking care of myself.
Thanks again for the atta girl. This part really does suck.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I think you summed it up right there. I am sure people that have been divorced for a very long time have moments where they feel a little angry our jealous...or remember the past.
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Hi there, I think it is your difense mechanism against the rejection, not necessarily the love, even though it is hard to separte the two sometimes...
I think it is because he looks like he is treating someone better than he treated you. But for his defense, he has to believe that it was all your fault that he could not treat you right. He has to believe that he can be a good man if he wants to. So he is holding on to the good self-image that he wants to believe. In a mean while, good for him if he can keep up. Either way, I think you will move on to find someone who can be there to empower you. Good luck!