HE'S NOT PAYING THE BILLS, HELP!
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HE'S NOT PAYING THE BILLS, HELP!
| Thu, 12-22-2005 - 8:45am |
Hi, this is the first time that I'm posting on this board, it's so good to know I'm not alone. I'm married 21 years, and have 2 children, 19 and 16. I have been pretty miserable from the start and married for all the wrong reasons. My husband is a good man, but just not for me. Overbearing parents that control him and his siblings, he really needs a mother not a wife, and never did anything on his own including finding a job unless his parents were involved. After raising my kids for all these years I finally realized just how miserable I was and ended up having an affair for the past 3 years, long story short, marriage got even worse, got caught, and he filed for divorce 4 months ago, which in a way was a relief. Now he's not paying the bills. Mortgage is 3 months behind, the house phone has been disconnected, no cable TV, which means in a few days, all TV will be cut off, including Internet service. I feel so bad for my kids. I haven't worked in 20 years, but now will be looking for a job, what I will get is beyond me. I have contacted my lawyer but there seems to be little I can do until we can get into court, and that wont be until after the new year. He also tells me he doesn't have the money. I'm sick from this, any advice?
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| Thu, 12-22-2005 - 12:01pm |
Hi i am in the same situation as yourself..Married 10 years and our son is 9. I filed for D cause he was cheating and fathered another child with this OW..anyways you need to get your attorney to file an order for temporary support..i did this and am now receiving half of all the bills and child care..it only took one week to do it..ask your attorney about it today and good luck to you...
| Thu, 12-22-2005 - 8:08pm |
Hi. Sorry to hear about your situation. The other poster is right, you should talk with your attorney about spousal and child support. You are entitled to those things after 20+ years of marriage regardless of the circumstances. He has to be extremely hurt and betrayed, I'm sure, and is obviously acting out of emotion. It's hard not to do. Emotions run high in situations like this, especially for the one who was betrayed and its hard to be objective. I was cheated on as well, and its difficult to work through those feelings. He certainly can't leave your children in a lurch because of his personal feelings about what has happened. Hopefully, he will see that the kids are suffering enough and don't need the added stress of they and their mom being left out in the cold. Also keep in mind that once you've been married 10 years or more, you are entitled to half of his retirement money and social security. Just thought I would mention that, not everyone knows that or thinks of that. Good luck to you.
