He's seriously insane

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Registered: 12-16-2004
He's seriously insane
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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 9:11am
SO my ex told me last night that he could get Clayton taken away from me in a heartbeat. Why might you ask? because when he was there yesterday, he said "I don't want ot go home, I want to stay here and play". . . Yup. That's it. Of course when I picked him up he ran and leaped into my arms ... and at 3 he is old enough to make that kind of decesion for himself and the court is going to say .. Oh, he was having fun playing and that's why he didn't want to leave -- well of course -- we'll grant you custody based solely on that fact. What an idiot.
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Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 11:57am

My ex too made a comment about our 3.5 yr old one time not wanting to leave him meanwhile when he saw me he too ran to my arms. What we have to be careful of is our ex's trying to manipulate our little ones for there own private agendas. Ex and I had a very very very bad breakup and he vowed that when ds was old enough he'd tell him all about how "I" kept him away from him. He took me to court for joint custody, we have another date coming up in mid september.

He calls ds on the phone, in the beginning I just let him talk to him then one day I put it on speaker and couldnt believe my ears. He had had his visit which is e.o.w. and wanted the next saturday which was mine and I had plans already. I told him this when he asked me. Later that night he called to talk to ds, I put it on speaker phone and he was telling ds you wanna go to the beach again, ds didnt say anything at first ex asked him again and he said yeah so then ex tells him tell mommy you want to go to the beach next saturday. Tell mommy to let you go with me okay, if you tell mommy you want to go with me she'll let you go. That s.o.b. I took the phone off speaker and told him dont ever do that again. Dont use him like that and I hung up. This is what we have to deal with unfortunately. So just be aware of tricks like this one. Ex for whatever reason still has a huge grudge against me and seems to have vowed to hate me forever. My aunt thinks he still loves me or he wouldnt be so nasty and bitter. Who the heck knows. I dont care anymore. He's been so hurtful and nasty to me. He has a 20yr old gf and he is 30 so to heck with him. Just stay strong.

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Registered: 01-13-2004
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 2:30pm

Boy, can I relate. And I'm sorry, it makes you sooo mad doesn't it? My STBX pulled that garbage because he told the attorneys I was irresponsible with money. Ah okay, I spent money on our two kids, irresponsibly maybe, but it wasn't like I was taking weekly trips to the Bahamas. My attorney told me to not even listen to him, like he was trying to take the kids from me because of that, she just laughed.

Sometimes it just amazes me what idiots they are and just today, I told my girlfriend, every time he opens his mouth, I realize divorcing the idiot was the best thing I could ever do for MYSELF!

Hugs, and hang in there!
Jenn in CT

Jennifer

Proud Mom of Travis (15) and Mandi (10)

and our pets, Sully the Dog and Till

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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 4:40pm
And i told him, yeah at that moment he didn't want to leave because he was playing. He's 3. He lives in the moment. There have been times where he didn't want to go see Daddy. And not just because he was playing. Then I have to explain why he doesn't want to go see him. I don't know. But then I get accused that someone (my parents) are brainwashing our son against him. Yeah. That's happening. They have nothing better going on in their lives other than to brainwash him against his father. It's never ending.