He's so crazy

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Registered: 10-30-2003
He's so crazy
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Sun, 02-04-2007 - 6:23pm

So not only is the STBX keeping my mail, he now admits that he hacked into my computer. He found some email that I exchanged with someone while we were separated but stil living in the same house. Granted, I had a rather emotional attachment so someone for a few weeks, but I ended it before it went anywhere. Now he's using this as a reason for the marriage ending- it's really not.

The worst part is that he ended with "I still love you" and "why couldn't we work it out?" I am afraid. I feel like this isn't rational behaviour. I feel like a prisoner still.

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Registered: 03-04-2005
In reply to: cbote
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 8:16pm
How is he keeping your mail? I'm sorry if I've missed any previous posts about this.
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Registered: 10-30-2003
In reply to: cbote
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 8:56pm
Some of my mail was still going to the house I was dense enough to think that he would actually give it to me. Instead he's telling me what mail I got and from whom- admitting that he has been keeping and opening it. I just don't get that.
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Registered: 05-05-2005
In reply to: cbote
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 11:56pm
You need to put in a change of address at the post office if you have not. If you have you should go to the post office and explain whats going on so they can make sure you are getting your mail. Good luck. Men can be so childish.

 

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Registered: 12-16-2003
In reply to: cbote
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 12:48am
I guess he thinks he's still in love with you and is not handling losing you well...struggling with the loss of control I guess. I'd recommend going on line and changing your address so you will be sure to get it.


Edited 2/5/2007 12:51 am ET by sdlostorfound
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: cbote
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 8:35am

Opening mail that isn't yours is a federal offense.


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Registered: 11-28-2006
In reply to: cbote
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 9:16am

Sending you hugs. I don't know what to say. I can understand your worries. I will pray that he is just emotional and doesn't actually take action. Don't know what it would take to get a protective order.

Keep us apprised!

M

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Registered: 10-30-2003
In reply to: cbote
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 3:04pm

Thanks for all of the replies. Today I am just angry at myself for totally underestimating him and being so naive. Last week I did arrange to have my mail forwarded. Today I also called all of the utilities to have my name taken off of them.

I guess I'm waking up a bit. I've been really stupid. I am so disgusted that he is still trying to control me and I let him. I can't believe that he invaded my privacy in such a way and sees nothing wrong with having done so. Furthermore, he's threatening to tell my parents that I had an "affair" and have them cut me off financially. Seeing as he hasn't given one cent toward their care, Iwonder who he thinks will be feeding the kids if he "turns my parents against me" as he is threatening.

He actually had the nerve to call today and ask if he could come over on his lunch break to see the kids. We just happen to be staying home because we all have colds and he is working 2 blocks away. I told him that he had a lot of nerve wanting to come to my house after what he has done. What an a$$.

But, of course he's only doing these things to me because he loves me. I could vomit.