He's still irrational and angry...
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| Tue, 07-17-2007 - 12:54am |
...and I don't know what to do.
I just can't deal with my STBX anymore. I'm so sick of having every issue be contentious, yet I can't abide his terms. I requested a break form our collaborative meetings because the anger and frustration was getting out of hand for everyone, and even though I feel more centered and calm overall, he's still making everything an issue.
I was away on the weekend so he had the kids from Thursday afternoon until this morning (Monday). He usually has them Friday night until Sunday night (yes, I let him have every weekend... ugh!)takes the kids on Tuesday night and brings them back Wednesday at dinner time. I told him I'd like to keep the kids Tuesday night and drop them off Wednesday before work, but he won't agree to that. His reasoning is that I chose to be away and he was doing me a favour by taking the kids, so he shouldn't have to give me that extra evening with the kids. It's just so irrational and frustrating.
How the hell can I learn to cope with this for the long term? I don't think it's ever going to change.

Well, I get the boys 4 nights and he gets them 3. I am in school and he works a regular workweek, so I agreed to letting him have the kids on the weekend when he's off from work and the one week night that I had a night class last semester (he refused to allow me to have a babysitter or family member come and watch them). I don't like the visitation schedule the way it is, but it was the best I could do when I moved out and he was refusing to let me(and physically preventing me from) taking the kids.
The list of his demands goes on and on. I am trying to mediate that all of the time. It is very hard for me to start a new life when I know that he is watching and controlling every thing the kids and I do. Why does writing all of this and seeing it this way make me feel so spineless?