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| Thu, 12-01-2005 - 8:54pm |
I have been divorced for almost 5 years, and remarried to a wonderful man for almost 2. I have two girls, 17 and 14, and their father has started the whole "I pay for everything" speech with our oldest. He has emailed her on more than one occassion, here recently twice, saying that the biggest mistake he ever made was when he was 25 (the age we got married), that I was pathetic, and that everything she got was really from him. He also stated that I don't work hard, and I don't contribute anything financially to their upbringing. Give me a break! I was a SAHM for 10 years, and went back to school for 2 years, but ended up quitting because I hated the program and it was making me physically sick. I went back to work full time this year, and since DD is a senior in high school, and involved in the band and other activities, the expenses have been quite large!
He emailed her again today, and said that I have talked badly about him (I admit that I may have vented to friends and family, but who else are you going to vent to?) and that I had the "gall to badmouth his new wife, who did nothing to me". Ummm, I don't remember ever saying anything bad about her. According to DD, he says bad things about me all the time to her and her sister, and that is probably the main reason that younger sister does want to see her dad!!!
There is nothing in our decree that states we are not to talk badly about the other parent (it is my DH's decree). I believe he is trying to get out of paying for college, and he mentioned in his letter that he pays for everything (medical and dental insurance), her car (not my idea to get her a new one, he had a used one she could have driven). He signed the papers stating that he would pay for all insurance, and even the monies not covered by insurance. I have never asked for co-pays or medicine to be reimbursed to me. He also agreed to pay for all costs associated with college, and that I would help however I could. He makes very good money. I have also not asked for an increase in Child support even though he has had many raises since we got divorced.
Anyone else have problems with this?
Sarah

I am sorry for that, especially for your poor dd. We HAVE it in our decree (well orders)
Hi Sarah.... he'll have a difficult time getting anything changed at this point regarding the parenting agreement.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~