I can't offer much advice, only support. Funny that you mention this happened while on vacation. My husband decided during our last vacation that he needed to leave me. This vacation was a belated Christmas present to me too. He cried all day during one day on our vacation and then later finally told me it was because he knew it would be our last family vacation together. That he was leaving me. How sad it is. No, you are definately not a fool. I would also love to have my husband back, but I know it will not happen. You will have your up days and your down, its like an awful roller coaster that you never think will end...and I had thrill rides! Have you tried counseling? I started counseling a few weeks ago, and am feeling a tad bit better after getting things out to someone who doesn't judge me, like my friends and family. Good luck to you and hugs. I know this is probably one of the worst things you will endure, but try to keep your chin up. It will get better.
I'm new here too, but I wanted to say that you are not alone. I totally understand. My husband left me 2 months ago and I still cry every day. Part of me hopes that his new relationship will end quickly so that he will come back, but the smarter part of me hopes that it doesn't because I would probably take him back and that is not the right thing to do. (((HUGS)))
by all means, go to counseling and choose a woman! I've been going and received a vent board who was non-judgmental, supported me and helped me through what would have been our 27th anniversary, dealing with family, and advice on reentering the world and taking care of myself
There are low cost and free services, check your benefits if you work, and then call a local helpline if you don't know where to begin!
I'm new here too, but I wanted to say that you are not alone. I totally understand. My husband left me 2 months ago and I still cry every day. Part of me hopes that his new relationship will end quickly so that he will come back, but the smarter part of me hopes that it doesn't because I would probably take him back and that is not the right thing to do. (((HUGS)))
Edited 7/8/2007 4:00 pm ET by marannalyse
by all means, go to counseling and choose a woman!
I've been going and received a vent board who was non-judgmental, supported me and helped me through what would have been our 27th anniversary, dealing with family, and advice on reentering the world and taking care of myself
There are low cost and free services, check your benefits if you work, and then call a local helpline if you don't know where to begin!
good luck, you are in a large sisterhood