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| Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:55pm |
Hi there !
I know it's been quite a while since I've posted. Just wanted to give a little update. For some reason ex has been pretty easy to get along with over the past couple months. Not sure why but I'm still trying to keep my gaurd up.
This past weekend my I'm not sure what to call her so even though she technicaly (sp) is not my step-daughter she still feels like one to me. So my 24 yo sd came back from Germany for a short visit. Since I've gotten on line I've been able to keep in touch better. Well ex found out she was in town and wanted to stop at my house to see her.
She doesn't have a very good relationship with him but was still planning to see him. He was ticked off because we were just sitting down to eat and she had told him she would come over after dinner. Instead of excepting that he basicly blew her off then called latter to fight with her more. So needless to say he didn't get to see his first born because of being stubborn. This sd happened to let me know that she had gotten married before going to Germany with new hubby. She didn't want to let her dad know because he had told her she should get married only because if something happened to him(hubby) she would be covered.
Her husband is in the Army and is now stationed in Afganastan for the next10 months. She was married for a year and three months before she let anyone know. I hate the fact that his own daughter can't celebrate her joy because of his ignorance. I'm so glad she came to visit me. She even spent the night with us. She also managed to snag a convertable for her rental car. That was fun.
On to the next problem. My 10 yo dd has been telling me every week for the past several weeks that she wants to live with me. This is really starting to break my heart. The other night ex called to say dd wanted to call me that she was upset and wanted to talk to me. So he had her call back and as soon as I said her name she burst out in tears and said she missed me and wanted to come with me. So far what I've boiled it down to is that her dad spends to much time sleeping or playing the game cube. She also has to battle her 18 yo half sister whom you would think is only 10 herself with the way she acts.
I've let her know if it makes her feel better she can call me each night before she goes to bed. She did that the first night and it seemed to help. Thew next night ex wouldn't let her because he had her up late and said I would get mad. Then the next night I told her to call at a certain time then if she stayed up latter I wouldn't know.
My problem is I don't know what to do . She gets more and more unhappy everytime she goes there. He thinks I can do something to make it better but I'm not there to make it better. That's his responsibility. He just doesn't see that he is driving away all the women in his life with how he is. He already told me he refuses to play Mr. Mom. Does anyone who made it this far know the definition of a Dad so I can pass it on to him? He seems to think that parrenting is a two way street and he only goes one direction.
Sorry if this is so long. Good vibes are more than welcome. If anyone knows a safe place on the net she could go and see she isn't the only one ,that would help too.
Thanks all..
K :)

Well, perception is everything.... and if he doesn't want to play Mr. Mom, then why is he calling himself Mr. Mom?
He's a DAD for Pete's sake..... and what in the world is wrong with being Dad????
10 is a difficult age.... my DD is 10, and oh, so sensitive.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~