Hi. I am newly seperated from STBX
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Hi. I am newly seperated from STBX
| Wed, 02-14-2007 - 1:17pm |
I just came here looking for some comfort in knowing I'm not hte only one dealing with a soon to be divorce or maybe to hear that my problems aren't so bad or that I will make it through this....I guess mainly I'm here just to talk? Maybe feeling lost is normal, I don't know.
Anyway, about me. I am almost 35 years old and have been married just shy of 12 years. I have 2 boys ages 6.5 and 8.5 and have been a SAHM for 7 years. My STBX and I are both at fault for our situation in a lot of ways though he chose to leave a week ago for reasons I don't see I guess. I have had some issues on and off since the get go our our relationship and he never had any issues at all until 2 years ago. I don't really want to get into the problems and I almost feel after reading a few posts that mine maybe aren't as bad, but none the less, I'm still in the same situation and scared.
My STBX has recently said that he will give me half his pay check every time he gets one, but I am skeptical. When he has been angry before there was never anything nice to say to me and threats of taking the kids were said and I'd be alone etc. etc. So it is making me wonder why now he is being nice about it, unless it is just because he is the one who called it off. I found out that he had a consultation with a lawyer 2 months ago ( I didn't know this until the day after he left) and I was lead to believe we were doing better, so he knows more about this rights than I do about mine right now. But he doesn't want to go to court and pay $30,000 in legal fee's, he wants to dicuss everything and decide for ourselves what we do and then just pay to help finish it up. But then how am I supposed to know what I should get and if what he is offering is really fair?
He has asked me to stay in the house until it sells. But after being a SAHM mom for 7 years, I don't want to rush into selling and how do I know I will have to sell it at all? I need to have a consultation myself with a lawyer, but if anyone knows anything about this, I would like to hear.
Sorry I have nothing really to say. I guess I'm just looking to talk. But it is comforting knowing people here may understand.
Anyway, about me. I am almost 35 years old and have been married just shy of 12 years. I have 2 boys ages 6.5 and 8.5 and have been a SAHM for 7 years. My STBX and I are both at fault for our situation in a lot of ways though he chose to leave a week ago for reasons I don't see I guess. I have had some issues on and off since the get go our our relationship and he never had any issues at all until 2 years ago. I don't really want to get into the problems and I almost feel after reading a few posts that mine maybe aren't as bad, but none the less, I'm still in the same situation and scared.
My STBX has recently said that he will give me half his pay check every time he gets one, but I am skeptical. When he has been angry before there was never anything nice to say to me and threats of taking the kids were said and I'd be alone etc. etc. So it is making me wonder why now he is being nice about it, unless it is just because he is the one who called it off. I found out that he had a consultation with a lawyer 2 months ago ( I didn't know this until the day after he left) and I was lead to believe we were doing better, so he knows more about this rights than I do about mine right now. But he doesn't want to go to court and pay $30,000 in legal fee's, he wants to dicuss everything and decide for ourselves what we do and then just pay to help finish it up. But then how am I supposed to know what I should get and if what he is offering is really fair?
He has asked me to stay in the house until it sells. But after being a SAHM mom for 7 years, I don't want to rush into selling and how do I know I will have to sell it at all? I need to have a consultation myself with a lawyer, but if anyone knows anything about this, I would like to hear.
Sorry I have nothing really to say. I guess I'm just looking to talk. But it is comforting knowing people here may understand.

Hi~
You should set up a consultation with your own attorney.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~